For the past few months, SD is talking less and less about how unfair BM is and more and more about their "quality time" and jokes, etc. and it is truly bugging the crap out of me. Great for BM! Now her relationship with SD is probably better than ever and SD treats me kindly when she feels like it or wants to ask for something. DH is buying her new clothes online what seems like every week and, of course, keeping up his Disney Dad image.

Last night, I made chicken alfredo and when SD was told to come eat, she says "I thought we were going out to dinner". I asked her who said that and apparently DH had said something like that yesterday morning when dropping her off. She did like it and took leftovers to camp today.

I am usually ok with her being around but the preteen, dismissive attitude bothers me and her tone is usually disinterested and boring. However, when she is talking to her friends or something that is about or interests her, she does a 180 and is cheery and such. I know it is wrong of me to assume she'd stay the engaged, kind little girl that she was 8 years ago, but I was still hopeful. Also, I'm sure all the attention from BM is making her think she's the center of the universe and BM still waits on her hand and foot.

Like last night, SD KNOWS the rule is to bathe at least every other day. She took a bath Saturday night before church. Last night I ask her if it is bath night and in her boring, drab, disintersted voice says "nooo??". I tell her that she didn't bathe the night before so it absolutely is a bath night. By 830 I didn't hear running water so I tell DH to ask her if she's bathing tonight (last night) or in the morning. She says "tonight" and finally gets it done.

Lately, I have been trying to tell her what to do less and less because I am just evil SM (unless she's getting something she wants) but DH doesn't ever notice anything, so I also have to remind him to parent and pay attention to his damn kid. I told him that I am not raising this baby alone and that he needs to do just as much rearing as I do when he/she comes next year. I do have a feeling that he'll be more involved with our kid, though, but I have been wrong before..