So BM and I finally came to a conclusion that we will start working together on not getting each other upset. I've laid our expectations down and hers too. Now that we both know how each of us feel and know the expectations, can this be good news moving forward? I hope so, we are tired of all the arguments and disagreements, most importantly misunderstanding. I found out that a lot of her perception about us are all false and I was glad to lay it on the table & tell her that its all false and shedded some light for her to understand our feelings and views about things. I hope this will help us better this relationship as blended families from this day and forward. And since I'm expecting, I don't need the stress. We are all getting old and better be happy from here on.