So my Bs wears glasses. We have had NUMEROUS issues with OSS and his temper. He's almost 15, my son just turned 8. OSS have on many occasions physically touched my son (push, hit, grab him by the neck, twist his arm, you get the picture).

So this evening my son and daughter and YSS went to the park by our home and were playing. BS comes home and I say "WHERE are your glasses?" Oh no! I left them on the park bench. Alright, get in the car (as it was just about dark) and we will go get them. In the car I proceed to say to my son "BS you know you are supposed to wear your glasses all the time. I have many, many, MANY times scolded you regarding taking the, off outside and putting them somewhere. WHY did you not have your glasses on?" He responds, "because we were playing a game and they kept falling off of me. I didn't want them to fall in the ground and get smashed" likely story.....so I say "BS, they can't possibly be falling off...we just had them adjusted a week ago and they have been staying just fine" BS looks at me and with a kind of sheepish look says, "well the nose piece popped off yesterday while we were at the park so they aren't fitting right again" okay, how did THAT happen. BS, again sheepishly says, "well, We were all playing and running around and I ran in front of OSS and tripped him up. It was an accident , we were all just running around, but it wasn't looking where I was going very well. And OSS thought I did it on purpose and got mad at me....(he pauses...I say annnnddddd....) well he grabbed me by my head and squeezed me and the nose piece popped off so he put it back on"

Let me tell you...LIVID!!! OSS has been talked to REPEATEDLY about being physical with ANYONE but certainly with his younger stepbrother who is almost half his age! However, I stay calm. Seething underneath, but calm I stay. I say "okay BS, I will look at them when we get home". I walk in the door and DH is in the kitchen and says "did you find them? (Sees they are in my hand) What's up?" "The nose piece is all messed up and won't stay on his a face ", I reply. He of course answers with the logical statement "hunch? We just had them adjusted less than a week ago?!" I then call for OSS to come downstairs and tell DH as I'm waiting for him what BS relayed to me. Now DH never, NEVER wants to believe that OSS is just malicious, so OSS comes down and I calmly say to him, "let's talk about what happened at the park yesterday...(I get a 'hunh' look). You know with BS and his glasses". OSS " oh, yeah his nose piece came off so I put it back on for him" I look at him, still calmly (as OSS is a consistent liar, almost pathological like his mother and grandmother) and say "okay, but HOW did his nosepiece come off?" His reply, "I don't remember" you don't? BS is standing right there, as is DH, and I say "BS what happened to your glasses?" He resells the same story only to OSS saying remember? It was an accident and we tripped but you got mad at me but then you fixed it" I look at OSS and say "does any of that sound familiar?" His response "idk, kinda. I don't remember what exactly happened" now I'm even MORE furious, but keep calm and say, "you don't remember what happened YESTERDAY to BS's glasses? Okay, well, why don't you have a seat there at the DR table and try to 'remember' what happened. And when you do we can talk about it" and I walked away. DH standing there the whole time. See NO parenting whatsoever! But I'm not going to scold, discipline, nothing. I WILL make him say what he did though. I WILL get his side of the story, so that he actually has to admit what it is he did.

DH is getting ready for work, I'm ignoring skid and whatnot. 25 mins go by and the kid hasn't said a word. I look at him and say "have you anything to talk about yet?" Looks right at me and say "I don't remember". DH goes in there shortly after and I hear him softly say to OSS "what happened?" And got the same response.

An HOUR AND A HALF LATER....KID STILL SITTING THERE. Boy, you don't know who you're messing with. Your I don't remember bullshit won't fly, and I'm not going to discipline you but you will say what you did and your dad can handle it from there. In the meantime, if your teen age onset dementia doesn't right itself, you'll sit at that table for the whole night. You won't outlast me you little SOB. Perfect example of no respect from skid, nor support, nor parenting on DH's part.

Mind you same kid who damaged his iPad to the tune of $50 for the second time and has yet to pay us back, and then just earlier today asked DH about fall hockey and trying out for a fall hockey league...tryouts alone cost $120 and then there is the fee if you actually make the team. But I should finance him? Yeah right! On the other side though, when DH was telling me about it, I never said a word like "the kid doesn't deserve it and he owes us money and he's asking for extras??" which is what I wanted to say, but I'm not paying for those things anymore, his mother sure as hell won't pay for it, and it's not my concern. Just nodded and smiled and said oh.