My 18 y/o son had wisdom teeth out so HD is a little jeolous that i am taking care of him. (i think that is what got him started) DH making annoying noises with throat, whistling loudly, and trying to annoy my son who is in pain and very irritable because I won't talk to SD9. My son keeps asking him to stop and he continues. Okay, now he chased my son out of living room cuz he can't take him aggitating him.

Okay, i had enough. While DH might let SD sit around and be miserable nasty child to me, I will not let my son be aggitated at or be miserable. I told him we needed to go to Lowes. Five minutes into conversatoin he screams "I don't give a shit about your son, he is nobody". I ripped my wedding ring off and threw it at him and said ok f*cker we r done. We don't need to discuss this any further." That is what my son and I were feeling from him and he justified it. He knew i wasn't mad and really meant it so he took it back. He tries then to say its the same situation as SD. First of all SD wont answer me when i speak to her, stares and glares at me constantly, and is constantly aggitating at me. He thinks my dissengaging is "not liking her". I told him if i engage with her, she is mean to me, and i will not ever let a kid be mean to me. I explained to him that dissengaging is an attempt to save this marriage, in that if i don't let things bother me, maybe she'll stop destroying my property and being a silent passive aggressive abuser to me. My sons talk to him and engage with him, SD will not engage with me cuz BM is a scank and won't let her. He is so immature for not wanting to see this or is her manipulation and shit she is saying about me behind my back making him angry again?

So rough day, stress levels gone through the roof and took another year off my life...3 1/2 more years of this and if it don't get better I am out.