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Submitted by GoingWicked on Thu, 09/27/2018 - 12:43pm

SD started HS, and all summer DH has been telling me how happy he is he no longer has to take her to school and pick her up anymore.  He’s going to start going to the gym in the morning because of all the extra time he has.

The weekend before, SD starts balking at the .5 mi walk.  She wants to use her bike (my very nice old bike which is technically mine, and she can use so it doesn’t end up MIA @ BMs).  

The night before school starts, she tries to ride the bike, fails, refuses to get back on and try again.  I personally taught this kid to ride a bike.  She’s probably rusty, but won’t try again, I assume because it makes her look bad.

The next week, SD walks to school, but goes out the garage, I assume because she wants us to think she really took the bike?…just weird.

She goes to BMs, finds out that there she can catch the bus.

Comes home from BMs, asks DH to drop her off at BMs in the morning (which is farther than the school and requires a gate code) so she can take the bus to school.  DH agrees.  ( eyeroll ).  On top of that she wants DH to pick her up at BMs after school.  In my head I am doing fist pumps and woohooing, that is 3-7 extra hours with no SD in my house every weekday.  DH may be a fool, but it worked out great for me.  Plus we aren’t having to pay gym membership fees... lol.

Oh yes and the skirt issue has now become a shorts issue, since she threw out all her old clothes for skirts and asked for nothing but skirts from BM for school clothes (I’m assuming because she thought she had a point to prove?).  Now skirts are out, and all she’s wearing are her 3 pairs of shorts I got her on the clearance rack.  Crazy kid.

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Thu, 09/27/2018 - 1:03pm

This is the most ridiculous ride situation I have ever heard. She needs a ride to BM's so she can take a bus instead of walking .5 miles? So, 2 modes of transportation, just to get out of walking .5 miles, one of which requires DH to drive out of his way. FFS.

Heaven forbid he tell SD no!

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Submitted by Just J on Thu, 09/27/2018 - 1:28pm

And of course Disney daaadddeeeee will not say no! Ugh this kind of stuff kills me!

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Submitted by ndc on Thu, 09/27/2018 - 1:37pm

That's laughable.  Half a mile is nothing, especially to a kid.  I walked half a mile to elementary school and thought nothing of it unless it was raining or 20 below.  Your DH is nuts to accommodate her, but I guess it's good for you in the short term.  In the long run, he's creating a monster.

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Submitted by Cover1W on Thu, 09/27/2018 - 4:41pm

I know!

SD12 is wanting to ride her bike to school.  It's a long 3 mile, hilly ride.  We had to say no for now until she gets more practice riding on a street with motor vehicles.  But we like her gumption.  She'd consider .5 miles a joke to walk.

I agree you must be enjoying the extra hours!

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Submitted by GoingWicked on Thu, 09/27/2018 - 1:57pm

I didn’t ask, I really dont even want to bring it up.  I assume this whole deal is because she doesn’t like to be alone.  She has issues, and I try to be empathetic.  Maybe if he drops her off at school she might be too early and have to wait by herself until class starts?

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Submitted by Peridwen on Thu, 09/27/2018 - 2:00pm

Right there with you! SD13 & SS11 go to school about a mile away. I insisted that they could walk, just like the majority of the students in this area. (Community schools, no buses in our county) DH agreed, but felt so bad about them walking home in rain that he spent the first two weeks of school using his lunch break to pick them up and drop them off at home. He can't do that anymore due to work committments, and it's been sunny for a while. 

Cue a downpour on Tuesday. I got a phone call at 3:30.

"Mom - it's pouring out."

"And?"

"Where are you?"

"At home working."

...

...

"If we walk, we'll get wet."

"Better walk fast."

"MOOooom!"

"Look at it this way; at least it's not snow...yet."

*click*  Peridwen's face -> Biggrin

 

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Submitted by tog redux on Thu, 09/27/2018 - 2:00pm

Now this is good disengagement. If DH wants to drive in the wrong direction from school every morning so his snowflake doesn't have to walk .5 miles, let him do it.  Not your problem.

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Submitted by Siemprematahari on Thu, 09/27/2018 - 2:28pm

This is just ridiculous and it makes no d@mn sense. Whatever happened to raising kids to be independent and doing for themselves. I don't get why this .5 walk to school is even an issue. SD would have no choice, this is what happens when you give kids options.

I am happy that you get extra time to yourself, that's priceless & enjoy to the fullest Smile

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Submitted by STaround on Thu, 09/27/2018 - 3:46pm

Not being able to ride a bike, or not walking 1/2 mile.

Dad needs to step up his parenting