I’d trade with any of you gals who have SDs that obsess over their daddies. It would be far, far better than dealing with my DH having to come to terms with his daughter not wanting him in her life and hating his guts.

His latest plan is to not just be a guilty daddy to SD15, but now to also try to win over her older half-siblings who hate him more than SD15 does.

I have to admit, I think he does have a point that her half-siblings not wanting her to have a relationship with her dad is part of the problem. They remember things that happened when she was little that they continue to hold against him. (DH and their BM were never married and SD15 was the result of a stupid drunken hookup, so these are not his former skids).

He has always had a very poor relationship with them. when they were growing up, they were jealous that DH would take his daughter for vacations in the summer and they didn’t get to go. They also were stuck in foster care when their BM was arrested. DH picked up his daughter but her half-siblings dads didn’t show and they had to wait until child services released them to their grandmother.

Almost all dads of teenage girls have difficulty understanding them, so I think DH would rather deal with her 19 year old half-brother anyway.

Next week, DH is flying up to visit SD15 while she’s on spring break and taking unpaid time off work. He’s taking a bunch of tools with him to help SD15‘s half-brother do something with his truck so he can have quality male bonding time and also taking SD15 to visit her half-sister. I don’t have a clue where all this money is coming from.

Neither of her half-siblings have anything to do with their own fathers. The half-brother’s dad is in and out of jail. I don’t know where the half-sister’s dad is, but he she hasn’t seen him since she was 2.

DH has been reading a book about fatherhood and the impact of absentee fathers, so he is absolutely obsessed with needing to be involved in his daughter's life and wanting to be a surrogate father to fatherless kids..

I don’t see lack of fathers as the problem with kids these days but permissive parenting and kids having far too much power. Just having a guilty Disney dad isn’t going to change anything.

People have a choice of what they want to do with their lives and they need to stop blaming their dads for their problems.

SD15‘s half-sister is in vet school. The half-brother will probably end up like his dad in and out of jail. They have choices. If they want to make something of their lives, they can or they can whine about their dads walking out on them and end up losers.

But of course DH thinks he can be a guilty daddy to the world and change their lives and SD15 will like him if her half-siblings like him. There is no hope for him. He’s never going to get it.