Need input on US laws. (anyone in the US here?) So, attorney for FDH sends him to mediation (continued from yesterday). Says it will be cheaper than a custody battle. BM is typical psycho BM with fake suicides and PAS war tactics. Has terrorized us for over 1 1/2 years. FDH hasn't had money for custody battle, has tried to talk with BM. BM throws, chases, screams and does obscene gestures in the street at each attempt. We explain everything to mediator and tell her we need someone who can handle a psycho and may need a psych evaluation (suggested by attorney). BM is on permanent vacation beginning at highschool graduation so has no money. Mediator tells FDH to give BM more money starting immediately in the state requirement. He's given her slightly less, but pays for all clothes, medical, eyeglasses and school fees. She says too bad, that's the law. Mediator sends me an e-mail telling me that he must comply with law. Attorney says no child support not enforceable until she files for it and there is a court order. However, mediator told BM that FDH must see kids three times per week. BM says "no way." BM still not answering phone or letting kids come with dad. Same mediator tells BM and FDH to take teens to dinner to deal with their feelings. FDH tells mediator he won't go with BM, only kids. In any event, BM is not interested in repairing father child relationships because he did her wrong. Now the kicker. BM (follow me here) file bankruptcy in FDH's name via telephone with a low cost service. Don't know if that is legal, but she did it. Could be because FDH's name is foreign and could be a woman's name. She hands packet to FDH some months ago and says sign, tell your fu&^%%$ girlfriend to read it for you and sign it. So, I say, why isn't name on bankruptcy, too? Call legal service and they say, that's a mistake, don't know what happened. Her name needs to be on because some debts are in both names and house needs to be protected. Also, married at the time time debts created. Sends new papers and BM signs. BM does credit counseling course as required. Almost finished. Attorney tells FDH bankruptcy must be finished before filing divorce. Can't have outstanding debt at time of divorce (part of holdup for divorce). Now BM tells mediator FDH forced her to be on bandruptcy and mediator tells him he can't do that. BM tells mediator that bills are all in his name, nothing but credit cards. Cards opened by BM in his name (looks like an American girls name) and USES THEM. Some of the debts are in her name also, such as hospital bills. I call mediator screaming that we explained BM was a psycho and liar and we have done over one year's work to straighten out BM's financial mess. Want to get rid of mediator who wants to set up another appt. I told her no. Can't afford custody battle attorney estimates at 10k (maybe more). New mediator? File ourselves? Rob a bank? What to do?
Francesca