It sucks! SD16 has been living with us for 2 years. She is a manipulative, lying, spoiled, princess who thinks everyone owes her something. BM1 is a loser, only lives about 20 miles away, but has never paid a penny in CS and does nothing for SD... Oh wait, but she did call to bitch at DH a few weeks ago because SD's TV wasn't working properly in her room, which of course means that SD16 was bitching to BM that her fucking brand new 52 inch fucking TV that WE paid for was not working right (and it wasn't even the TV it was the satellite) ... WTF? Ungrateful little snot!

When SD16 first moved in it was awful... DH treated her like some wounded little animal who needed to be handled with kid gloves.. "Oh I just want her to feel special/welcomed" {gag} of course SD16 ran with that! Now we have a filthy, lazy, nasty slob living in our home, who has ZERO responsibilities, is failing school, demands that DH buy her this, take her there etc. I mean it is SOME drama pretty much every week with her. DH and I went to counseling and while I did like the Dr., there was something she said that bothered me. She said that ANY house with teenagers is difficult because teenagers are egotistical and think the world revolves around them. OK, I do agree to some extent, BUT I have many friends with teenage kids in their homes who do NOT act like SD16 because my friends don't allow it.

In the past 6 months or so, DH has really started to see SD16 for what she is.. a user. She only has use for him when she wants something. DH is done. He refuses to give her money for anything anymore, refuses to run her off to her friends etc. because SHE refuses to clean her room and bathroom like we have asked 20 trillion times.

I let loose on her on Monday about dirty dishes in her room and the state of her bathroom. I am giving her until Sunday evening to clean up what I asked (she has been getting home late all week due to practices and games) and then? if it's not done, she can start riding the fucking bus to school. Can't do what I ask, then no more limo ride from Daizy to school.

The bottom line frustrating part is that if this girl was parented from the beginning we wouldn't have a `16.5 year old who is set in her ways living in our home, who we are trying to "fix" now. Way too late for that... but damnit DH and I refuse to let her run the show for one more minute. We have both told her if she doesn't like it then she can go back with GBM. Probably sounds harsh, but it's what this snot needs.

Too many of those counselors say something stupid like that, mine did. People say it to DH all the time, too, giving him the false impression that this is normal. I've known plenty of teens, girls and boys, but I've never ever met one like SD15. No, counselors of the world, it is not necessary to have a savage in your home just because their age begins with a one. Teens can be lunatics about %15 of the time to be stage appropriate. All the rest of the time they should be decent citizens like a 7 year old manages to be. And that %15 can only go so far, like ditching a few times out of the whole school career, not a once or twice a week or more steady habit.

I relate with the above posters. I have a lazy, useless sloth with the personality of a sponge living under my roof and I do next to nothing for him. He thinks he is owed everything because he lives here. Everything in the fridge or pantry is fair game even if my other kids bought it for themselves with their own money. He was helping himself to my son's carton of eggnog the other day and I had to tell him it was my son's that he'd bought. He gave me a smirk and said "It was just chillin' on the bottom shelf" and walked away with his cup to enjoy. Oh you are just too cool for me! He earns money for taking out trash and emptying the dishwasher (only does it because his dad pays him so he can have money to buy weed). Walk up to the store on the corner and buy your own! Nope way too lazy to do that and feels like someone else should provide for him. My dh gets no cs for him. His mother is incarcerated. I just have to deal with him for 3 more years until he's 18 and hope he leaves or I have to leave. It's a shitty life. Often I feel like I really need to go seek happiness.