Better file for an extension and try to set up a payment plan I guess...why did you think it was all cleared up? Was there any kind of $0 balance letter from the IRS, or did he just tell you it was?

"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"

(((HUGS)))

Clear it up with a lawyer and while you are at it divorce the idiot. If he is that irresponsible and you bear the burden of him and SD with no benenfit to you, why stay? Obviously he doesn't care anything about you that he hid this information. He had to have known that this was a possibility. Just like he wanted you to pay his property taxes. You are his cash cow. That is why he was so angry that you went on the cruise. He is controlling and you really have no idea of HOW bad things are really going to get with this guy. I say cut your losses and file for a divorce when you return. Otherwise you will end up filing for the same divorce years down the line when you are financially, emotionally and spiritually bankrupt. No one is worth that.

Just because one opens her legs twice, does not a mother make! ~ ME ~ }:-P

if you do not, they will continue to harrass you for the money. I used to work for IRS. If you don't file the form they will take the money from your tax returns to come as long as you file with him. A joint return - means you pay for joint taxes if necessary.

You have a claim.... especailly if the issues arose before you were ever married to him. He knew he still owed back taxes. He just want to be able to get it paid down earlier and doesn't care if it is your return as well.

this can't wait long enough for you to finish your vacation? OMG!!!!!
UGH this is such the turd topping on the shit cake of this man, I'm sorry Ferretmom but he makes your life so hard day to day, this ONE thing he even manages to shit on!!!! I'm so MAD for you!

sorry for the profanity I can't help it.

"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Albert Einstein

I feel so bad for you. Does anyone else just think the timing is suspect since he tried sooo hard to prevent your going.

I agree with Principlist that you need to divorce this train wreck of a man. He will only drag you down. He is emotionaly abusive & sick.

I can understand your feeling that you need to go home & deal with this. I would feel that way too & it would weigh over me while I was gone, but I think you need to not run home & try to enjoy the rest of his trip no matter how much liquor it takes. He will love nothing more than to have you do this.

Please file for a divorce.

Ferretmom, before I married my H some of his financial irresponsibility started floating to the surface. I almost didn't marry him because of it, was ready to call it off a month before the wedding. How I wish I would have listened to my gut instinct! I am working on an exit plan so I've been busting butt to find a job. I hope you will be able to get this situation resolved.

In the meantime you should enjoy your vacation. There will be enough fall out when you get back...heck, you might even need to book yourself on another cruise!

that drags you down financially deserves to be divorced. You don't have to stop loving him-----you can even keep living with him, just don't intermingle funds and get rid of the tie that binds you (marriage license).

NEVER NEVER NEVER intermingle funds with an financially irresponsible man ---------IT IS FINANCIAL SUICIDE.

NEVER FOR NO REASON EVER.

IRS sends nasty notices but believe me they do not work that fast. Enjoy your vacation. Good on letting the lawyer handle his portion.

Besides that do not ever file jointly with him again, file the innocent spouses form, and then i would suggest divorcing him.

He will be in deep with IRS for years. It is not worth it. You may as well file single and take what you get - rather than make it easier for him to pay IRS.

How irresponsible can he be - he should have been upfront in the beginning. That is fraud.

1. Do not come home, this will wait, trust me.
2. Do not file jointly with this man, EVER.
3. File the innocent spouse claim, stat!!

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

Yep, he's trying to ruin your vacation-and your finances.

I don't know what more my H has up his sleeve, but he's going to find out that I am not gulliable enough to sign any thing with him. Not one thing-filing as injured spouse - what a great way to put it-that's what I am. the injured spouse. Injured by a pack of lies.

We need to cut our loses and run! While I struggle my way thru learning this class, I am also struggling thru the want ads. Something will turn up and when it does, he's out on his hiney.