I posted in my last blob that for the first time ever SD16 is buying me a Christmas gift. As most of you assumed (as did I), I figured DH bought it for her. He has sworn up and down that he had nothing to do with it (and I think I believe him since the last couple visits with her they didn't go anywhere alone). I make it a habit not to converse with BM unless absolutely necessary. We may exchange a couple of texts a year usually about a gift for DH at Christmas or his birthday. I reached out to her last weekend to ask if SD was buying her dad a gift or if I was picking something up for her to give. BM said that she has already bought DH a gift and confirmed that she has bought me one too. (I didn't ask about me). I thanked her and ended the conversation.

This week was my first chance to get Christmas shopping done since I was in bed with pneumonia since late November. I pretty much finished in 2 days and when going over what was bought, DH hovered behind me. I know he was looking to see if I bought anything for SD. Nope. He had a moment of false hope when he saw a necklace that looks like something a teen girl would wear. I deflated that thought quick when I told him I bought 3 for my 3 nieces. He had the nerve to say, 'SD would love something like that.'. Oh you fool....I gave her the EXACT SAME THING FOR HER BIRTHDAY IN THE SUMMER. He reminded me that SD was getting me a gift this year. I reminded him that I bought ALL her gifts the last 2 years and he only signed the card. We agreed that he was handling that from now on and even so, I was not ignoring her blatant disrespect of me just because it was Christmas. She is only being her version of nice to me because she KNOWS I am the one that buys her gifts even though getting a thank you out of her is like pulling teeth. She's panicking, she knows her precious daaaaddddyyyyy has no money and was counting on me to bail him out again. As of this moment, she has a $50 Walmart gift card from 'us' that he picked up a couple weeks ago. He felt it was more important to go to a friend's poker party than make sure his precious angel had something else under the tree. I never thought I would truly feel this way but I have no guilt over not getting her a damn thing and not bailing my no-money-sense DH's ass out again.

If this magical gift appears, I will smile, thank her and move on to the next thing. I know my dad, aunt and uncle and brother and SIL have something for her so she will not go home destitute. I told them to put a $20 limit on her gift due to her behaviour but I know my dad will spend as much on her as he would his other grandchildren. We will have her from Monday night till Friday afternoon and I'm already in a knot over it. I'm putting my baking and wrapping off till she's here so I have an excuse not to spend time with her.