SO Got Results from Court
Things turned out in favor of the kids staying with dad.
He has full legal custody, he does not have to pay her alimony. She has to pay him child support.
She gets them for 6 weeks in the summer, starting the first saturday that they are out of school. She has to come get them, my SO would have to go pick them up at the end of the 6 weeks.
The christmas/winter break is weird though. They get alternating years, but it is also separated into Dec 20-27 with one parent then 27-Jan 3 with the other. I don't know how this is supposed to work considering they are in school past the 20th and go back before the 3rd. Would she be required to keep them here and take them to school on those days that she still has school, or can she take them and them just miss school? This part wasn't made clear, so my SO will have to ask his lawyer about this part.
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he does not have to pay her
he does not have to pay her alimony. She has to pay him child support.
Woot! BM must be losing her mind (if she hasn't already lost it) What are the odds she'll actually pay? Does she have a job?
Yes, probably. 90% sure the
Yes, probably. 90% sure the reason why she tried to get the kids was because she wanted more money. She got burned, instead of getting money from my SO, now she has to pay him..
Congratulations!
Congratulations!
That’s awesome. When my
That’s awesome. When my husband was granted full legal and physical custody and BM just got visitation years ago, he still had to pay her $850 a month in alimony and she paid zero in child support. A few years later, after her visitation was stripped away, she still pay zero child support.
Why the hell was that????
Why the hell was that????
Because she worked under the
Because she worked under the table so the courts thought she had zero money. She’s extremely good liar and has a talent for hiding things from the government. LOL
OMG I have no idea how you
OMG I have no idea how you did not rip her ugly face off!!
p.s. How is SD doing with her living arrangement and school?
Long story and I don’t want
Long story and I don’t want to derail her thread. Cliff Notes is, I made her move back in within five weeks due to her bad mouthing that other family. More serious conversations have taken place with her and we found a really good therapist. So for the past six weeks things have been better than ever. I think she learned the grasses is not always greener on the other side and how good she actually has it here. LOL
Curious about her child
Curious about her child support amount. Let me guess it is 30bucks a week or there about's.
Why did she loose custody? If you don't mind me asking.
Drugs?
*snorty* that's about what
*snorty* that's about what dumb@$$ was ordered to pay, for THREE kids. not that she's ever paid even the first time...
A little over $400 a month. I
A little over $400 a month. I believe his lawyer was trying to get it directly taken from her so she had no choice, but don't know if that is how it ended up. She gets 2000 a month from the military, not taxable. She probably won't pay if it isn't directly taken from her. She never paid the child support she was supposed to for her first son that she lost 10+ years ago.
They split up almost 5 years ago now. A few months after that, she followed her current bf around the country, she only came back to see the kids when my SO gave her the gas money to do so. Last Sept she moved back to her home state. The kids have been with my SO for this entire time. She also has a history of mental illness and inability to make plans ahead of time and actually stick to it. Makes decisions on the spot without thinking about the consequences.
Emma5678 Would you believe
Emma5678
Would you believe that you described what is quit common in family court.
"A few months after that, she followed her current bf around the country, she only came back to see the kids when my SO gave her the gas money to do so. Last Sept she moved back to her home state. The kids have been with my SO for this entire time. She also has a history of mental illness and inability to make plans ahead of time and actually stick to it. Makes decisions on the spot without thinking about the consequences".
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So many "traveling Moms" have custody squatting in one state then on to another, cant make plans ahead of time and stick with it. AND are chance takers.
Glad to read the kids are with SO.
Glad things turned out well
Glad things turned out well for you. We have had no end of trouble with the 'she has to pay him support' part - hope you have more luck with it.
Odd for the CO to list exact
Odd for the CO to list exact dates for any hpilday. SO's states they split hoildays and it changes each year. Basicly one kid gets them from when school gets out till end of Christmas day the other gets till day before school goes back.
Also he gets 6 weeks but she gets a weekend in the middle. Read CO closely and be ready to request a change. Exact dates like that are a problem.
This is just what was told
This is just what was told him in court, hopefully the paperwork clarifies it more. BM lives in a different state, about an 8-9 hour drive away depending on traffic... If BM cares about the kids like she says, she would stay up here somewhere during the Christmas break (as of now, she has a friend she can stay with that the kids have known their whole lives). I don't think that much travel within days of each other would be good for them.
It would be nice if my SO gets a weekend in the middle, but that would mean he would have to travel to her state, get a motel room, and keep them in a motel for the weekend... don't know how they would like that.
Funny How Agencies
will go to the ends of the earth to squeeze CS out of NCP bioDADS but wink at and look the other way when it comes to NCP BMs owing CS.