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Wrapped around daddy's finger

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Submitted by emilymarie on Fri, 10/29/2010 - 4:22pm

I have never blogged before. I am a stepmom to a wonderful 9 year old girl. However, she has daddy wrapped around her finger like you wouldn't believe! When it's just her and I, she's wonderful, well behaved, happy and even mature for her age. But when dad's around, she's whiny, asks to be waited on, manipulates, lies, and acts like she's 2. I'm on the outside looking in and see these 2 different sides of her. Daddy just caters to her like she's a princess, despite discussions we've had about how she's acting. Any advice because I'm going crazy and don't know how much more I can take!!!!!!!!!!

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Submitted by emilymarie on Fri, 10/29/2010 - 5:03pm

You're absoultely right. My expectations of her are clear and have been from day 1. She knows this and respects it. It's pretty sad though that she respects me more than her own father. He's raised her from day 1. I never came into the picture until she was 6. And you're also right about the behaviors not being nipped in the bud when we're not around. Sometimes I think he disciplines when I'm around for my sake because afterwards he always feels bad if she's "mad at him." Oh well, she'll get over it!!!!

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Submitted by caregiver1127 on Fri, 10/29/2010 - 5:10pm

EmilyMarie of course we can believe that SD has DH wrapped around her little finger - that is why half of the women are on this site. DH needs to be a parent and stop feeling guilty about the divorce and the break in the family life or you are going to have one entitled princess on your hands - I would tell DH that while SD is 9 this behavior may seem cute to him but when she is 16 it won't be and girls get very expensive as they get older - so if he is spoiling her like crazy now just wait. You and DH need to become an united front and he needs to stick to his end of the bargain - he needs to be with you in teaching this child how to grow up and be a productive member of society if he doesn't then he will have to reap the consequences. I don't know if he knows you are on here but if he does print out some of the blogs about SM's and their older SD and let him see what his future holds - he may get mad but at least you know that you opened his eyes and he had a choice and then he as to live with it. It is great that when you are alone she is good now work on hubby to be good - lol