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Nursery now, SS's room no more

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Submitted by Dontcallmemom on Wed, 07/10/2013 - 10:09am

DH and I are expecting our first baby together this fall. We decided to move SS13 out of his room, because it's right next to ours and he'll take the extra room downstairs. We've already started the moving/renovation process and I'm so excited! Anyway, a few people have questioned our decision to do this. Like it's totally unfair to SS and we should figure something else out. I think the thought of not having a room for a baby that will be at home 24/7 right next to the parents is ridiculous. SS is with us 4 nights a month and in my opinion, doesn't even need a room dedicated to him in our tiny home. But he is lucky that we just happen to have a spare room for now.

This was something that DH and I decided to do independently of each other and when the time came to do it we immediately agreed that it was the right thing to do. I guess what bothers me is how other people who don't understand the situation put in their two cents without using their brains. Of course our baby is getting that room, sheesh!

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Submitted by Sweet T on Wed, 07/10/2013 - 10:20am

we lived in a small 3 bedroom, 2 up 1 down with an alcove off the upsatirs where we had our computer. When BS was born ss then 7 moved downstairs with ss9,for those 4 nights a monthe they slept at our house. DH actually suggested that we put the baby's crib in the alcove so precious ss 7 could keep his own room. No freaking way was my response. At the time the skids shared a room at their moms even though she had an open room across from her bed room. Once they had to share at our house they got their own rooms at hers. YHow anyone thinks that the child who actually lives at a house should not have their own room should pound sand.

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Submitted by step off already on Wed, 07/10/2013 - 12:38pm

I bought the house that we all live in last summer before me and DH got married. We stuck all the kids upstairs. My two boys (10,9) share a room and my DD12 and SS13 each have their own room. We also took apart one of the bedrooms upstairs and made it into a family room so the kids could have their own space. We took the really tiny office downstairs and expanded it into our bedroom so we could have the downstairs to ourselves.

Fast Forward to now and we are expecting our first baby together any day, but we are out of bedrooms. This is the only child that will be with us full time, but there's no way we are yanking anyone. My kids are with me about 60% of the time (and often more if you add in after school and summer) and SS13 is with us ft except for his EOWe with BM.

SS13 keeps volunteering that he'll give up his room in a year or two and move out to the backhouse, lol. He's a bit of a scaredy cat now, but they do want their own space. (But there's no way I'm giving SS the back house - EVER! Don't want these kids too comfortable here, lol).

Baby will stay with us in our room for the first year and hopefully we'll have added on a new bedroom for her next to ours by next summer so she can be right next to us - which is exactly where I think babies belong. Then by the time she's ready for her own space, I expect some of the kids will be up and out and she can move upstairs.

Your plan sounds good to me!

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Submitted by misSTEP on Wed, 07/10/2013 - 1:13pm

If anyone would have the GALL to give you THEIR opinion on what should happen in YOUR house, I would say (as seriously as I could muster):

"OMG you are RIGHT. What about poor SS? We will put the baby out in the garage (in the basement, give baby up for adoption - whatever the situation needs you to say) so SS who is here 4 days a month can keep his OLD room. What were we THINKING, having the baby next to our room??"