I have a giant german shepherd. I adopted her as a puppy. I am the only one who pooper scoopers after her (of course). Today, as I was scooping...and oddly enough, the sack of $#!t closely resembled BM2....AND SMELLED LIKE HER TOO!

I know this because I am constantly cleaning up the mess BM makes in our family. She kicks the skids out, and sends them to us for retraining/fixing, teaches them it's okay to smoke pot because God made it for us, and to hate DH and me, the wonderful Step momster. They are basically "FERAL" children raising themselves. And a child left to himself willll do whaaaat??? yes...disgrace his parents or some crap like that. (they are 21, 20, and 17 now)

See, I wanted a dog, but I never wanted BM2 and her bullshit.

Now to the cheerleading part. I'm always backing DH up with ANYthing he wants to do. He calls me his little "pit bull". Fine, it's my personality.

What I want to know.....where is DH when I want a cheerleader??? BM2 sits over there on the throne WE PAY FOR and rants about what a psycho I am and how I better stay out of her and her skids f-ing life.

WTH? She's the one sending her kids to me to raise. It's not like I WANT more kids, I have 4 of my own beautiful children and hers are UGLY and have poor manners. So while I do everything in my power to be a wonderful mother to ALL OF THE kids, she resents the "favor" I do her and tells DH to tell me to stay out of hers and the kids lives. WTF? She knows DH is going to be gone working all the time and that I will have to do all the work.

So DH....says, DDAKAN, never talk to her or the kids again, okay? Please stay out of it. DDAKAN says, HAY HOW ABOUT YOU QUIT INVOLVING ME IN SENDING THEM TO HIGH SCHOOL AND BEING THEIR TAXI AND THEIR PERSONAL SHOPPER, CAR BUYER, LICENSE TEACHER....MEGA LOAD OF OTHER CRAP PERSON???

So BM2 makes a big mess on facebook adding my cousin (i roll my eyes and just deleted my cousin, she's an idiot anyway), Dhs cousin, BM1s daughter with DH (Really mad about this one), adds DHs brother, then the final straw was BM added DHs dead brothers son....she never acknowledged his dad's death, she adds his son anyway.....the reason she does it....she is a busy body from HELL trying to stir up CRAP.

You tell me: Is it REALLY harmless for BM2 to add all these people? Is DH right that BM can do and say anything she wants to as long as she doesn't say anything to me? (We've been married 10 years). BM won't even add her own adopted daughter (from her dead brother who died of aids and she also kicked out said daughter at 17, as a jr in high school, who i had to finish raising and re-train completely), but she adds DHs family just like they are one big happy family. I used to let it go, but now it is obvious that she is just trying to piss me off. There was no reason for her to add SD26 from BM1, she doesn't even know the child, but she wants to get into DHs business somemore. (SD26 contacted me on facebook to try to know DH and it is working out great, except that NOW BM2 is spinning her stories to SD26, and it's none of BM2s freakin business!)

Meanwhile, DH tells me to get over who BM2 adds or what her motives are and that she can do anything she wants. Can he at least LOOK and SEE part of my point??? NOOOOOO. Am I wrong here for wanting a little understanding of how she is getting into our business???

I don't have to be RIGHT, I just want to be CONSIDERED! Would someone please agree with me?