Sorry about that last post, it posted without a blog attached. What I had said was that my DuH is a great electrician. HIs boss loves him, has a lot of faith in him and DuH makes the boss man a lot of money with his stellar work(we have the bonuses to prove it). Last night the boss calls DuH to chat. DuH is in the next room and I can hear him giving the boss parenting advice regarding boss' elementary age students. Lord help us, if anyone knows DH they know this is just plain wrong. Does boss think because DH has 4 older kids he is wise in the ways of child-rearing? Maybe because DH is such a skilled worker, he thinks DH is skilled at everything in life. I giggled about it a little when DH came in the room. He said, "I bet you thought that was real funny." and we had a laugh together. DuH has come to terms that he has been a horrible father and SD21 is the product of that. SD18 is tolerable at this point because she is rarely home but still an entitled brat and not that smart. She has an even dumber boyfriend, or he is at least a loser. He was spending his days sleeping til noon here because his his parents were mean to him and by mean I mean they asked him to get out of bed, take out his garbage and do his laundry, it stinks. Mean parents! So he was slepping here all day while SD works. We put a stop to that. He is not to be here when SD is not. DH is proud of SD18 right now for getting a job as a CNA in a hospital that she was underqualified for but Covid has caused a shortage of healthcare workers so I am happy for her to get this opportunity. The little ones are 14 and 12. They aren't great, they are failing school but they aren't horrible kids. They have learned to avoid pissing off the wicked step mother, as has SD18.

So quick update om me, I am waaaay more disengaged than I ever was before. DH and I get along for the most part but I don't think we will ever get our romantic relationship back. Not as long as he chases his daughters like a sick puppy. He really is sick in his emotional incest/emotional abuse with them. I have an office with a deck and my bedroom with a bathroom and I spend most of time there when the kids are here. I do my food prep ahead of time so I can be in and out of the kitchen. It's pretty much like I rent a room here to sleep and one to work. I am writing and have joined a writer's group in my area and we keep each other accountable as well as give each other feedback. I'm happy just being me and working on getting a writing career started. I don't know if it will ever pay but it is rewarding and someday I'm going to have some of you read my work since it is about step life