Am I the bitch?

Anyone else find this obnoxious? I had clothes in the dryer with about 10 minutes left to dry and towels in the washer waiting to go in the dryer. SD17 who I have had many laundry room problems with before, she is ob-fucking-noxius to live with, took my wet towels out of the washer put them on top of my almost dry clothes and now everything is in the dryer, towels and clothes, so the Princess of Darkness can use the washer. Does anyone wash towels with their clothes? No, too much lint right? It's mostly pjs and undies so I don't care but if it was my nicer clothes I would care. I care because she is an a-hole, and I care more because my husband is a bigger a-hole for defending her. "She has to go to work" is not a valid excuse for being inconsiderate. Thirty or so minutes later, I asked her not to take my stuff out of the dryer until it is done and she got snotty and DuH yelled at her and then yelled at me and now everyone is yelling...why you ask? Because of SD17. What a surprise.

Everyday I regret quarantining in this house instead of my parents, but I once I was here with the skids, I felt the risk of infecting my parents was not worth it, so I just 'suffer' here with 4 children who are not mine and my husband who I try to get along with but I cant, while I haven't seen my parents in a month. I haven't seen my own kids in over a month but that would be true no matter where I decided to quarantine. Our values as well as many other things are not compatible and we need to live apart.

edit: I even tried having more sex as a way to get along during the quarantine. it's not working.

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What about

a hotel or rental for 2-3 weeks to decontaminate? There may be apartments available that landlords would let you camp out in because college kids left.

I spent $300 on supplies for

I spent $300 on supplies for this house to avoid going out shopping. I'm kinda in this for the long haul. I can't just up and take all of my supplies with me. DH did a Sam's Club run and a couple of grocery runs to keep this house of 6 going. I don't feel right using my parents' supplies and I'm not about to get petty and take my half of the supplies with me. It's usually not so bad. I have my own room and bathroom. If my parents get sick I am packing up the car and going to care for them if needed. I bought things for them and DH bought things for me. I told him weeks ago when this is over, I'm going to need a break. I will either stay with my parents or a long visit to my kids or other family. Im not sure what my summer schedule will be like after COVID. This certainly could be worse, that is why I put quote marks around suffering. For the most part, I have the kitchen to myself in the morning to have breakfast and prep food for the rest of the day and then I'm in my room writing and editing. Using this time to work on a book that I started writing in my head last November and getting it on paper now

DH flipped on DS once

When DS put DHs clothes from the dryer onto the floor in front of the dryer.

That time I did defend DS. DH had ALL the laundry baskets full of clothes for him and full ones in the skids rooms, plus the load in the dryer that was DHs had been in there for DAYS. AND I told DS to dump it on the floor. He actually came to me to ask what to do. I said if no one cares about their stuff and others in the house then they should not care that it gets dumped on the floor.

SD has taken DHs wet towels

SD has taken DHs wet towels from the washer and threw them on the carpet in the hall so she can do laundry. She could have put it in the dryer, right? When I came home from work and asked DuH why there are wet towels in the hall, he yelled at me...Im guessing because I was criticizing his precious Princess of Darkness. I actually wasn't, I really just wanted to know why there were wet towels in the hall.

We had issues with laundry as

We had issues with laundry as well. Especially annoying was people thinking it was ok to launder one outfit. So now we lock up the laundry soap and they have to get it from us to do thier laundry.

Your husband yelling at you

Your husband yelling at you over stupid shit like that is a big issue. Do you walk on eggshells?

I walk on eggshells around

I walk on eggshells around SD17 because she causes an uproar every time she gets upset. I'm not afriad of DH, I'm a better fighter than him, I know how to shut his dumb ass down. SD is so dumb she doesn't know how dumb she sounds so she just whines things like I didn't do anything, ohhhhh poooorrr meeeeeee.

I don't leave my stuff in the

I don't leave my stuff in the washer or dryer for the reason, I don't want others touching it but with 6 people in the house, I try to be considerate. If I leave my stuff, I don't expect others to put their life on hold. I literally was sitting in the next room waiting for the dryer to buzz so I could switch my towels to the dryer. I still had 2 more loads to do put would have put it on hold so SD could wash her hoodie which is what she wanted to wear to work. I have not done laundry on a Sunday night(or asked her first), knowing she comes home form work on Sundays and needs to do laundry.

There is no way I'd be treated like a skid

Your DH needs to be way more afraid of the impact his yelling has one you. How dare he disrepect you like that? I would never let anyone yell at me like their child. He yelled at the skid for messing with your laundry and then turns around to yell at you for complaining. Oh no! That should never be happening.

Ohhhhh, myyyyyy goodness.

She broke the laundry code.

No your not being a B

Just let her know what you expect in your home.

She will threaten to kill

She will threaten to kill herself and I cant take all that right now. She is suicidal when it is convenient but when BM took her to the hospital and they took her phone and her clothes suddenly she was ok. After that DH made her go to counseling, she got out of it time after time because she was sick or soething came up. After he FORCED her to go, she was suddenly fine again.

Good. Let her be quarentined

Good. Let her be quarentined at a hospital for 2 weeks! I would throw that out in the begining of me yelling at her!

Last time she was suicidal,

Last time she was suicidal, it was because she didn't want to be in trouble for 2 unexcused absences from school. THe hospital sent her home. BM didn't want her stupid ass so she dropped her back off here.

I mean... there is this. But

I mean... there is this. But then there are the hospital bills that no doubt would also affect OP...

I hate it when SSs use my

I hate it when SSs use my laundry machines. One has to use it regularly, because even though he is 14, he still wets the bed.

I went in once and my washing machine was running with one sock in it...literally, one sock.

We also have a pedestal washer (a small washing underneath our main washer) that I use to handwash things or wash small loads and that same SS broke it once, so now I really hate him touching it.

SS13 also still wets the bed

SS13 also still wets the bed and washes his own sheets now that he is old enough so now we have 5 people using the washer. We all live here full time. I take my laundry to my moms sometimes but DH takes that as a slap in the face cuz i leave for the day. It's really a win win for me

Threatening suicide is very

Threatening suicide is very serious and should be treated as such.

Call the police and she should be bakered.

I am sooooooo sorry your living with this. The threat of sucide must be dealt with each and every time. Very scary.

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oh man. I'd be mad too.

I had no issues with something like this with YSD, because she didn't do laundry.

Now. YSD always does her own, ever since I taught her how to do it. However, she did one time, ONCE, remove my things from the washer (I had them on a timed wash start, with soap and all - it was clearly lit up with the timer) to run HER load - yes, with an additional amount of soap (v. bad for those low-water use washers btw).

I had a nice little chat with her about not messing with someone's laundry if it's in the machine, especially if that other person is home. I let her know why I was on delay wash and she could have waited or come to find me. Same thing goes for dryers. It's about respecting someone elses's things and someone elses's time. She hasn't done it since.

All three of my kids (2 bios

All three of my kids (2 bios and 1 SD17) have a designated day to wash their clothes so we never interefere with each other. If they leave their clothes in the dryer past 9:30 p.m. (my bedtime) the clothes become mine until their next laundry day. If they forget to wash them on their day, they are not allowed to wash anything until their next laundry day. Problem solved in my house. FYI: we've been doing this for 6 years. The days are Mon-SD, Tues: DS15, Thurs, DS15.

ETA: Yes, my boys have been washing their clothes since they were 9! I worked two jobs and was barely home. I was only sleeping about 1.5 hours per night on weeknights. I could NOT keep up with laundry, so I taught them how.

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