I know everyone's first response is to go to court. Trust me, I am pushing DH to do it TODAY. But... let's say for sake of needing some real advice here that's just not an option for TODAY. And I need to know what to do for TODAY.

BM's mom has been pushing to see SS this week. We took this opportunity to have a conversation with SS day before yesterday. We told him that at this point we have informed BM that she isn't allowed to see him until she "gets the help she needs". He stops us and says "I'm not stupid, I know what she is up to". So DH says, we figured, and that's good so I don't even have to tell you, you already know. We talked about that for a few minutes and SS says he agrees that she needs to get help and he doesn't want to see her until she is better. No one mentioned the actual words "DRUGS", it was just understood. He doesn't trust her. DH told him one of our fears is that she will not be "in her right mind" when she has him, and she will try to take him and run. SS says he is smarter and stronger than her and he would never let that happen, but he doesn't want to be with her right now anyway. (smart kid) He doesn't even want to hang out with his grandma (her mom) unless his uncle is with them because "he is the only one that uses his brain". (REALLY smart kid).

Then DH tells him that we will never force him to spend time with people if he is not comfortable. That includes returning your moms calls and texts. We won't FORCE you to do it and we understand if you are mad at her, but don't feel like if you respond to her that you are going to get in trouble. He says that he doesn't want to talk to her now, he isn't mad at her, it just sucks that she can't get herself together. Then he says she has been blowing up my phone and it's driving me crazy. Ugh.

So, BM attempts several times to text and call SS yesterday. From texting from different numbers "hi SS, it's MOM". She even text him from METHMAN'S email address. He HATES that guy. I can't believe she did that. It says his name in the email address. SS was visibly upset when that one came through. He never responded to any of it. We were watching TV, just the 3 of us. Girls were at their dads. SS's phone rings. Strange number. He looks at it, and puts it back down. 10 minutes later, it rings again, NO CALLER ID. Usually when he gets weird calls he will ask me to answer it. ALWAYS. He looked at me and I said do you want me to answer it, he said NO, it's my mom. She is trying to be sneaky. A few minutes later DH's phone rings. It's BM from a strange number. He says it's not a good time. She tells him she needs to talk to him, he says not now. And hangs up. SS knew who it was.

So, now... I want to tell her to leave him alone. If he wanted to talk to her he would have answered when she was contacting him from her number. Don't try to TRICK your kid in to talking to you. He is WAY smarter than you, and it won't work. DH says to give it a few days, if she keeps it up then we say something. It's been going on for a week. We have already told her she can't see him... is it wrong to tell her to just LEAVE HIM ALONE?? She is making it worse. He doesn't want to think about her right now.