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Submitted by Bradymom on Fri, 12/13/2013 - 9:07am

My DH treats his daughter like she's an infant!!!! 7 years old I come home to my daughters keepsake rocking horse in the living room. I ask why it's out, as it was in storage in the garage. "Oh, she saw it & wanted to ride it." She's 7. "She just loved it. Wouldn't get off of it. Rocked on it for an hour straight pretending it was real." She's 7. I nearly lost my shit. References that she's the baby & crap. Yes I say that about my kids. But it's to tease them "you will always be my baby" but the difference is--- I don't treat them that way! So I'll be rewrapping the damn horse up in lawn bags...Again. And putting it a little deeper into storage. But now every time I see it I'll think of a coddled 7 year old riding it!!! Seriously. I get the daddy's little girl thing, but ...ah hell maybe I don't get it. Who else is dealing with a dad that is not facing it that the kid isn't the same age as they were when the original family fell apart? He treats his boy like that too. Both are admittedly immature for their ages, but BOTH bio mom & DH treat them like they're babies. (DH has begun to get better with son)

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Submitted by farting_glitter on Fri, 12/13/2013 - 9:56am

holy shit Terikitty!!.....thats so awesome!...do it do it!

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Submitted by Tuff Noogies on Fri, 12/13/2013 - 9:28am

had a similar problem w/ DH and YSS... yss was always all over him, all the time like a baby always wanting to be held.

i took a page from RWF's handbook over the summer Wink
yss (9 at the time) was in DH's lap in the recliner, set sideways with dh's arm behind his knees, and one behind his back (think like a groom would carry a bride over the threshold).
i took a picture. a few days later i was going through pics on the phone, and i showed it to dh. in a really sweet voice i said "aaaawwwww looook howwww cuuuuute!!! daddy and his babyyyyy!!!"

dh didnt say a word, but that was the last time it ever happened.
}:)

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Submitted by Mercury on Fri, 12/13/2013 - 9:38am

The very first time SS stayed with DH and I as a couple living together, DH made his breakfast (put a toaster waffle in the toaster and pressed the button down), he cut the waffle up into bite sized pieces before serving it. I stood there watching him, dumbfounded. I actually asked him wtf he was doing. 9 year olds should be able to use a toaster and don't need to have their food cut up for them. DH's excuse? It was SS's first night with us, he wanted to make him feel comfortable and at home. It never happened again after that, DH got embarrassed. Later we made a list of chores SS was expected to do every evening. F*%@ letting him grow up a pampered entitled little snit of a human being. We need to counteract BM's helicoptering and actually help this boy grow into a self sufficient, competent, confident young MAN.

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Submitted by Tuff Noogies on Fri, 12/13/2013 - 2:40pm

"But I don't know hoooooow" *snort* this works on dh too- he'll just sigh and do it for them (all three, incl. oss15!) rather than listen to them whine.

they dont try that with me tho' Wink

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Submitted by ctnmom on Fri, 12/13/2013 - 2:35pm

She rode the rocking horse for an HOUR?? I would tell DH to have her tested for some kind of , ermm, slowness.

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Submitted by luchay on Sun, 12/15/2013 - 11:00pm

Oh yeah, we get that one here STILL.

SD is 13, she CAN cook a little but OH always has to light the stove for her because she's too young to press the ignite button herself....

SS10 - cannot get himself a bowl of cereal or God forbid we expect him to make his own toast!!

MY dd8 can make her own lunch, breakfast, toasted sandwiches, easy-mac (pre-packaged mac and cheese - put the pasta in the microwave with water, cook, add the cheese satchel and stir - rocket science I tell ya!) One day OH was out and SS wanted his easy-mac for lunch! I told him to make it himself like dd was... he looked blankly at me.

I said "get a bowl and put the pasta in it" Another blank look - this time around the kitchen - so I said "get a bowl out of THAT cupboard!" He did, and found the scissors, I had to tell him where the measuring jug was kept, how much water (he read the packet but couldn't work out how much 180ml was), then it came to microwave time - he didn't even know how to open it!!!! OMFG - 10 years old!

OH will get every meal for him when he's here. I won't.