Ok so those that don't know..... DH raised his exSD... Then got stuck with her DD when she was 4 she went back to mom and DH got gardenship when she was 7. She wrnt back to her BM about 2 months ago.
DH had zero control over her. Wouldn't parent, made excuses.. Well your kids know you love them. She isn't secure in our relationship if I do this then she will feel all alone. She has RADs. She is a brat. Seriously, I have met friends he has had for 10plus years. One will not let exSGD over to her house or anywhere near her DD. The other use to be DHs roommates, they can't stand SGD. She is a spoiled brat.
But DH wouldn't try. He let everything go. If I said or did anything I was picking on her. DH is gone 3 days at a time for work. My thing is at kids bedtime I have them go through the house and get all there crap. I learned early with kids, trying to keep the house during the day is kinda a waste. Anyways example SGD, it time to get ready for bed, go though make sure nothing of yours is on the table, couch.. Etc. do the same with bios. DH is gone, for 3 days SGD you need to either dump your gateraid or take it to your room. 3 days she ignores me. I told her no more gateraid for a week. DH comes home I explain how she ignored me for 3 days... So double time no gateraid. I get a list of what Dd and BS do and how I'm picking on SGD. He goes and buys her a soda.
So spoiled brat, DH refused to parent her, excused her behavior and wanted everyone else to excuse it as well.
She is gone now. BS9 has OCD, and some other issues, and BF isn't helping. DH comes up with all these punishment ideas. He checks BS room when they leave for BFs. He kinda steps all over me. And tells me how he is starting to feel about BS how. I feel about SGd. I'm kinda building resentment. Soo BS being Inapporiate with jokes, trying to please BF, not thinking things out, and being hyper are on the same level as SGD who threatened me and my kids, would physically attack me, threated to call the cops and tell them I hit her ( we had cameras in the house at this point) and did whatever she wanted??
Where was this person when it was a child he was actually responsible for?? I have more good days with BS then bad, I get more good school reports then bad, he has never been physical, sorry he is no on the same level as SGD. In fact, his friends that don't allow SGd over, ask for my kids all the time.
Anyways, the more he opens his mouth about BS, the more resentment I feel. He refused to do something about SGd, made me the enemy, let her get away with everything, but I should take his advice??