The Forgotten. The Ignored. The Unloved. Gag me.
I posted on FB about how I keep having dreams that DD19 is home for a visit, and now that she's been gone for 3 weeks, it's real and I miss her.
SD22 commented that she hasn't seen her dad or brothers since May (actually it was July) so she knows how it feels. Really? DD is away at college. She's only an hour away, but that's still not something we can do every week. SD is a bit of a drive, too. About a half hour. But she's a lot closer than DD is, and all she has to do is FUCKING CALL AND COME OVER. Or invite her dad and brothers to her house. Once again, it's poor little SD, she never gets to see them and no one cares enough to come see her, yet she puts zero fucking effort into making it happen on her end. We are without a vehicle right now. Have been for a while. It's finally getting worked on today. FDH has been getting rides to work and I have to ask my gramma to take me to town once a week for errands.
SD is home all day with a car. If she misses everyone so much, why isn't she doing something about it? FDH's birthday was Thursday, he was home all weekend, why didn't she come see him for his birthday? Or call him? Why is it always the other person's responsibility and why does not seeing someone always mean that that person doesn't care about her? She didn't imply in this particular comment that no one cares, but she has implied that many times over the past couple of months and countless times over the years. She wants to be the center of everyone's universe and cannot stand it when no one is chasing her down. Yet she sits there and says and does nothing and it's ok. Easier to cry about being unloved and "forgotten" than it is to take some initiative, I guess.
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Repeat after me: Not your
Repeat after me: Not your circus, not your monkey.
Quit caring what SD posts about on FAKEBOOK!
The sooner you accept that she is an ass and she posts stupid shit (which you know she does!) the better you will feel!
If anything you could have responded back "You are always more then welcome to come and visit SD, just give us a call when you want to come over."
I did think about that, but
I did think about that, but I'm not sure I should even respond. Now her DH gets on there and likes her comment. No doubt she is ranting and raving right now about how I miss DD after 3 weeks but no one misses her, bla bla bla. Fuck that shit. She is capable of picking up a phone and calling to plan to see her dad and brothers. I'm not going to apologize to her over her choosing not to.
Turn the tables on her. If
Turn the tables on her.
If she is trying to play victim, then call out that b.s.
Simply say "Anytime you want to come over, we would love to have you!"
I've found that what works
I've found that what works best for me is to just unfollow her so I don't see her non stop narcissism, as it grates on every fiber of my being, but she can see what I post. If she suddenly couldn't see anything, there would be a shitstorm shortly after. Not even worth it to me. I don't post anything that I care if she sees, so no big deal. Now in the past, she got pissy with me about something (she was about 17) and blocked me, then lied and said she deleted her fb. I knew better. A few days later, she re adds me. She liked pulling this shit of letting all the world know when she was pissed off about something and publicly demeaning people on FB, which she did to me. I blocked her. She must keep tabs on my page, but it wasn't but just a few minutes later that she called FDH ranting and raving about how it was "inappropriate for a sm to block a skid on fb". What. The. Fuck? It's inappropriate for me to block someone who is being over the line disrespectful and talking shit about me to EVERYONE, but it's not inappropriate for her to do that in the first place? I have no fucking words for how I feel about that ass backwards way of thinking.
If they're blocked now, just leave it. If they request to be re added later and you think it's ok to do it, go ahead, but either unfollow them or block some of your statuses from them if there is any potential for bullshit. I do it just to keep the peace. In reality, I would be perfectly fine not having her on my fb at all.
Haha! I stressed myself over
Haha! I stressed myself over the thought of her wanting to move back in, too. She's an idiot, but one good thing about her jumping the gun on having kids and getting married is that it is now unlikely she would ever ask, and with her and 2 kids and a dh, there is no room for here for them. They lived with her FIL for a long time. Let that family deal with them!
Why is she on your FB? Is she
Why is she on your FB? Is she a friend? If not, let DH deal with her drama. Block her, you are done, you do not need this stress in your life.
I only have friends on my FB that make me smile, the rest can get their own pity show.
I have the same feeling