I'll be ur alibi....LOL

OMG. Why do you even know her birthday?!? And why do you obsess over her SOOO much?

I have to tell ya, and I am not bashing you, I really am trying to help you. You need to get some professional help.

You have so many problems with a woman and kids that YOU DO NOT SEE and haven’t in months and months. My arm chair psychology is that you are so guilty for breaking up her marriage that you want to make yourself believe she is the devil. Even when she is not impacting your life one iota!!

Crayon you really need to stop obsessing over his kids and ex. It can not be healthy!

LMBO!!! Boy the claws come out quick on here sometimes huh? My point was lost I guess.

Right back at cha foxie. Very classy.

Do I have to put a gun to everyone's head and force them to sing the happy friday song??Don't test me darnit!I'll do it!I'm on a pushy bitch roll today!!

If he brings up the birthday just say yes i know it's her birthday.how could i forget such a sacred and holy day??? }:)

Hahaha! - I know OUR BM's birthdate and I am not obsessed.

I needed to know for some insurance forms. I looked her up on www.pipl.com and found out her birth YEAR on there. I also found her Amazon account and found her birth DATE on there. Took me all of 3 minutes to find out.

The internet can be a scary place! }:)

i know BMs birthdate,ss#,bra size,dress size,and some very intimate facts about her um feminine areas.I'm not obsessed either.When she lost a bunch of weight she "accidentally"emailed a celebration email to everyone on her address list which included DAH's email and the celebration email included all of her new measurements.The intimate details about her feminine areas being all funky came straight from DAH one time when he was drunk and under the influence of a certain herbal refreshment.The birthdate and ss# is on DAH's tax forms from when they were married.I would think it's pretty common to know the ex's date of birth.Just like they probably know ours I'm sure.

now i'm wondering how many here are or were the other woman??not that it changes my opinion of them but it would be interesting to see if there's a direct relation to the super psycho bm's in the case of an affair that resulted in the divorce.

I can't help but know bm's birthday as sd always writes on my calender 'my mummys birthday' in big letters with stars and hearts around it. I haven't put a calender up this year, don't give a flying doo dah that she's another year older or that she has scabbed of the goverment for another year.

Let me clarify my point. I don’t think crayon is obsessed because she knows the BM’s birthday. Weird to me, but I can see how that can happen. Crayon is obsessed because it seems like her mind is almost ALWAYS on her boyfriends kids and ex. Which I understand if they were in the picture…but they are not. And haven’t been for awhile. Being the OW has no point in my post except to maybe explain why she obsesses over them. People make mistakes.

I will back out now, because I am sure the more immature ones are gonna crawl out with the snotty cursing comments again, but I would just suggest to her to try a week without, blogging about them, talking about them, and try not to even think about them. It may make her a happier person. JMHO

I think a lot of us ( myself included ) allow the BM to rent to much space in our head. I really think that was along the lines that Willow was going. Autuer you allow these people to take up a lot of space, too much room for people you are thankfully not having to interact with on a daily basis. I just think it would be so liberating for you to have just 1 week where you could not devote any of your time worrying about what they are doing or might do. I am not judging because I have times where I think way too much about what goes on at BM's house with her & her looser BFF the Manimal, criminal & mother of the year. I know that I am more miserable when I get like that and I tend to argue more with my husband. Trust me he does enough annoying things on his own that fighting over BM is just wasted arguing.

i still take the stance that op is hurting and has been hurting for a LONG time because of this "man".her blogs and talk about the skids and bm might be her way of sorting through her feelings of hurt and the emotional trauma she is experiencing.maybe?i know that when i can't make a situation add up i will talk about it a lot to try and make sense of it all.op seems like she honestly can't make peace with how this "man"can treat her the way he does then turn around and get completely googly eyed and soft when the mention of rotten skids and nasty BM is made.he probably trashed bm to OP for a long time and now suddenly he pulls a 180 on her and makes her the bad guy while bm is a saintly source of nostalgia for him.I would be talking about it a lot too if i went through that!i hope i don't come off as trying to speak for you op i'm just trying to relate and express how i would feel if i were in your shoes.

I think the real problem here is this particular man. He is NOT ok. The way he treats her & her son is NOT ok. You can't make sense of crazy. BM is probably thankful to be rid of him.

NAME WAS DELETED * SORRY... Did you change your screen name? No wonder when I logged on I could not find you...

All is well with me- FYI BUT am being stalked like crazy by STBXH. (see blog.)

Miss you. Hang in there.

WOW - some of you are very judgmental - quoting the bible and all - it does say in the bible judge not that you be not judged - if any of you are without sin then cast the first stone. Sometimes when OP posts things I too wonder why she stays too but I also know that I don't know the whole story and I have not walked in her shoes so I don't pass judgement on her - I actually feel bad because I know if she could get out of this situation she would -

And to say just leave it is not worth the few thousands - if those few thousands are all the money you have in the world then it is worth every penny - from her stories (I am going to call her A) A has been supporting GG all this time because he is paying for his kids - which he should but when he leaves then A will be on her own and maybe she needs all the money she can get from the sale of her home to help her start her new life.

Also everyone quit telling her to let her SO see his kids he is a F*CKING adult and if he wanted to see his children he would - he doesn't want to see them that is obvious or he would fight for the chance to see them - don't blame OP for GG's lack of complete parenting and shitty skills as a father - his kids - his responsibility to see them - not hers - if I ever told my DH he could not see his son he would do it anyway so she is not stopping the asshole from see his precious SD who has the writing skills of a 3 year old - GG is stopping himself because they are not important enough to him!!

And okay so she was the other woman is she supposed to pay for this for the rest of her life - and please all of you don't tell me you have not made bad choices in your lives - obviously you have you are here on this website venting and asking advice about your situations - and then there are some who are just here to make the rest of us feel like shit!!! I met my husband 1 month after he left his home - and we got married 1 year later - he was still married when I met him and yes I guess you could say I too was the other woman and you all who were so judgmental could jump on me and tell me what a horrible person I am and that I deserve what I get but the real story is that for the 2 1/2 years before my DH left their marriage was in the shitter and he actually has emails that she sent to 5 different guys that she was sleeping with prior to his leaving - in fact she even slept with their neighbor and best friends husband - my husband even after he found out about her sleeping around was willing to go to counseling and try to make it work for the sake of their son but our BM said no way and he actually has a letter that she wrote to her friend that said she is so far ahead in the process of the separation and divorce and that DH needs to move on she is so over him. He actually made the move to leave when he found another letter where she told this same friend that she was going to try to turn it around and string him along until he had paid for her to finish her college degree and take as much money as she could from him for a year - that is when he left -

So yes I am the other woman but my hubby did everything he could to make his marriage work but since BM was not into it - in his heart he moved on the day he left their home. He went on Match.com and that is when I met him and we got married a year later. Now BM no longer wanted DH at all but has been completely psycho because once he really knew it was over the love he had for her in his heart died and he moved on and she is completely pissed off that he is happy and has someone who makes him happy - so in my case it was not because I was the other woman and stole him from her but he was still married legally when I met him. This year we will be married 7 years and next year BM will be out of our lives once SS graduates - so even though she tried to make our lives hell - we have succeeded as a married couple cause even though I met DH one month after he moved out of their home their marriage had been over for 2 1/2 years - so unless we know the whole circumstance then we should not judge anyone.

And if Auteur's blogs drive you crazy or you feel you need to school her when she vents - then maybe you should just skip over her blogs and read about someone else - because when she comes here she is already down so I don't think everyone ganging up on her and kicking her when she is down is right. This is a place to come and vent and if you don't like the vent then get out of the blog and move on to the next blog - there are thousands to choose from!!

Auteur - you know there are many people on here who are here for you and wish you the best.

I know BM b-day but its really hard not to....It's News Years Eve...(mine is New Years DAY). She will text DH and ask "arent you going to wish me happy b-day?" he used to but now he just says "are you going to wish my wife one too?" that shuts her ass up real quick. DH has never forgotten mine. But we do go out on hers--due to the holiday not b/c of her b-day. It makes her mad he wont acknowledge it anymore. LOL