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SO shouldn't get CS because he's a MAN...

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Submitted by Anywho78 on Sun, 04/15/2012 - 10:00pm

So for those of you that read my blog http://www.steptalk.org/node/65258, you know that Nasty is at it again with threatening to take custody of SS9 & SD8.

Normally, SO jumps to and responds to her threats quickly. The phone call happened on Friday & I am guessing that the fact that he has not responded with our “Plan” made her uneasy…plus knowing that he was wanting everything in writing.

SO just got this email from BM…I thought I’d share…

SO,
I have thought alot about the conversation we had the other day and I have decided that I do not want you to send me a proposal. Forget the whole conversation. I will figure out how to make it on my own. I am not going to deny that I am angry at you. I am angry that I found out we were divorced and that I owed back child support through my HR department 6 months after the divorce was final (LIES!!!). I miss my kids (HER OWN FAULT). I am totally blown away, still, that I am paying you child support. I understand that you have the kids, but you are a man, you make more money than I do on a monthly an annually basis, and still you take from me. You have said over and over that you never asked or wanted the child support, but you still collect it every 2 weeks (BECAUSE THE JUDGE SAID SO!). I think it is sad. But it is what it is. If you feel like you are entitled to the child support and have no shame in taking my pay every 2 weeks instead of getting a part time job... that is your problem. I am not going to worry about it any more.
Nasty

HAHAHAHA! Really? So he shouldn’t accept CS because he’s a MAN? Really now…interesting! As far as figuring out how to make it on her own…ummm…isn’t that part of being divorced?

SO sees that she is trying to re-write history & make herself a martyr…he said he would be responding to her by email this week…hopefully he lets me read it before he sends it!

I have pre-written a letter so that SO can pick through it and edit it as he sees fit but highlighting the important points.

We shall see…

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Submitted by Anywho78 on Sun, 04/15/2012 - 10:19pm

BINGO...she wants her CS back.

He did tell the judge he didn't want any support & the judge laughed at him...said it wasn't about SO & it wasn't about BM...it's about the RIGHT of a child to have love and support from TWO parents.

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Submitted by Anywho78 on Sun, 04/15/2012 - 10:22pm

SO thinks that she is going to play the pity card...in the hopes that we take care of transportation...AGAIN...so I'm with momtomany Smile

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Submitted by morgan_minx80 on Sun, 04/15/2012 - 10:32pm

Defo keep this is proof incase she does start all that again. What a nutjob.

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Submitted by Anywho78 on Sun, 04/15/2012 - 10:35pm

Definitely!

I want SO to send her an email stating something along the lines of...

"The phone conversation that took place on April 13, 2012 will be the last one that I have with you. I am tired of your threats and I am tired of your attempts to scare me into doing what you want. In the future, I will only communicate with you via email. The only communication that should be taking place is about SS and SD. Anything not pertaining to the children will be ignored. Financial issues that you are experiencing are not considered child-related.

Your constant threat of custody battles is at an end. The happiness and well-being of our children is not a game and they are not pawns. Should you feel the need to pursue the matter further, I look forward to hearing from your lawyer.

As you know, I help with travel costs for summer visitation between you and the kids out of the kindness of my heart. I have no problem discontinuing my assistance if your vain threats persist."

Doubt he'll send it but...a girl can hope, right?

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Submitted by Rags on Mon, 04/16/2012 - 5:59am

Response:

XW/BM,

First, I do not recieve CS from you. The children do. They are entitled to the benefit of both of their parent's incomes. I did not ask for CS. The judge awarded it to the kids just as every judge awards CS to the children of failed relationships. Until the kids are of age the CS is under the stewardship of the CP. In our case, I am the CP. You pay, I steward. When the kids are in college you can pay them directly. Until then, it is what it is.

If historically you had made better decisions in the best interests of the children then things could have been different. However, the judge has ruled that I am best able to deliver on what is best for our children. I take that responsibility as their father very seriously and I will do exactly that.

You can see them as defined in the Custody/Visitation/Support CO. All you have to do is actually see them. When they are visiting you then you are responsible for caring for their best interests. If you never see them then you will never have the opportunity to deliver as a true parent and you will remain nothing more than a memory for the children and a small paycheck for our home. My historic particpation in the visitation travel expenses is now over. Your CS used to be used for me to help to ensure the children get to see their mother. Now that is entirely on you. I suggest you start saving up for the travel costs for the upcoming summer visit.

The kids will never hear of any of this from me unless you attempt to polute then with a bunch of BS about how victimized you are..

For the sake of the children I truly hope you step up.

Your XH.

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Mon, 04/16/2012 - 8:56am

PS - I think she's crazy, but I think the judge is a liar too...

He did tell the judge he didn't want any support & the judge laughed at him...said it wasn't about SO & it wasn't about BM...it's about the RIGHT of a child to have love and support from TWO parents.

Really? Nope. If that was the case, they would make sure that ALL parents work, even if married, so that kids get money from BOTH parents. They also would ensure that ALL kids, regardless of birth order, received the same amount of support. This is the basic BS line that states and judges use because really, it's about them making someone pay so that the state can get their share for collecting it. Simple.

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Submitted by Kilgore SMom on Mon, 04/16/2012 - 5:03pm

Our Bm has 3 kids only one is DH. Son #1 Bio father (not DH) told Bm that if she would stay off drugs he would not pursued her for child support. He keep his promise for years. Bm did not keep hers. So he finally went and filed. Boy did that piss BM off. BM just couldn't unserstand why he would file on her. (Hello you POS dope head) why should he keep a promise, when your the one that broke the deal by getting back on drugs. He was only trying to help someone willing to help their self.
Needless to say Bm begged DH (we have SS #2) when she got out of prison to please not do what Father to #1 son done to her. DH told BM she had one year to get on the feet then he wanted her to start paying her child support. (little does she no DH did try to Not get CS and the Judge told him No all parents owe money for support of their children) Bm didn't last 8 months out of prison and was already running from the law. BM is back on drugs. Hell no DH is not giving her any more chances. Theres a saying.
The First time you make bad choices its called a Mistake.
The Second time you make bad choices its called a Chioce.
that was your choice to live with your bad decisions.