doing the text to speech so please excuse any misspellings or weird words.

it has been a week and I am still keeping my mouth shut! Step daughter 14 will have to find somebody else to be her monster to get people to save her from! The week has gone well. She eats twice as much as a grown man and drinks cokes and on phone all day now and I don't care! Let her.anyways, it has been very cold and I have been very happy this week. I do not ask her to pick up her own shoes or anything at all. My husband does it when he gets home he answers any requests he tells her to take a shower since she doesn't bathe or brush your teeth over the weekend at all her entire life's I have had to stand over her to make her brush her teeth but Mel I don't care let her teeth turn green.

She went to her mothers house for the weekend Friday night and will come home Sunday night which is tonight and this is the first weekend she has done in over three to five years. She spent the night last weekend one night but had not even spoken to her mother since 2012 before that week.

I noticed step daughter and husband we're just waiting for me to make the transportation arrangements or for me to just drive her so I told them I sure hope you find a way for her to get there and get home. Do not expect me to take care of it. I said this nicely and I said if you cannot figure out transportation and need me to help I sure hope you ask me at least 24 hours in advance to what I'm willing to do. So I did drive her Friday halfway and met her mother's husband for drop off he is a really nice guy.but my baby cried the whole way there in the whole way back it rained it got dark etc.

So DH and I discussed it and it was his idea that from now onif they continue weekend visitations every other weekend or one weekend a month (because of course BM disappears randomly but swears she's going to stick it out this time dot dot dot haha anyway since DH works every other weekend we were going to try to have her go the weekends but he works but he said he would drop her off and pick her up on the weekends he is off and then he and I could have time on the weekends. He said the weekends that he works she can go hang out with friends or help around the house or have company if I feel up to it and say yes. She will have to ask him to have company over on the weekends he works and he will not give permission if she calls him at work so he has to have notice: yea! But he said he will talk to me first of course and see if I feel like letting her have company and then he will tell her yes or no. DH has come so far it is astounding.

it is funny because SD 14 does not know that we know she says I really abuse her verbally she does not know that I have spoken to my grandmothers, my cousin, and my in laws and discovered hurt behavior so this week she lays out stretched out on the couch with her head in my lap wanting me to pet her head saying how much she loves me.she wants me to watch TV with her and to play cards with her and she seems pretty happy this week. At the end of the week DH made her put the few little cups from the sink into the dishwasher but I had already put up all the clean dishes and I had already went out the dirty dishes and there were like 4 cups but she bounced around hollering Hill awesome she is that she did dishes. She kept saying how we were supposed to praise her for doing it. I just wanted to roll my eyes. So I still do all of her cleaning up after her and cooking but it is not about getting out of doing those things to me color it is about peace in my home and me not having to deal with her. If I'm lucky she will go every other weekend to her mother's house and I will only have to clean up after her and feed her on the weekdays. I know this sounds awful like I do not love her, but I cannot have that stress on my pregnancy right now and it also is very stressful on my baby 14 month old. Of course I love st14 and would not want to just kick her out, that is why it is modified disengagement.