OT, kinda but not. I'm the only one taking care of the puppy!
So apparently I'm the one that's going to be putting all the effort in to crate training and house training our new puppy. Oh and I'm being nit picky.
My expectations
-Puppy is watched AT ALL TIMES if he's not in his crate.
-If he can't be watched (read: they don't want to watch him) , in his crate he goes.
-If he's in his crate, he needs to be taken outside about every 2 hours.
-If he's not in his crate, he needs to take outside about every 30-45 minutes.
Not that hard to follow right? But apparently that's too nit picky (DH's words). The skids can't be expected to watch him at all times, even if they're just sitting on the couch playing with their phones, or reading their kindle. If he leaves the room, they shouldn't be expected to go seek him out. And when DH is home, he plans on relaxing, not spending his time at home tracking down the puppy.
Nevermind, his favorite place to poop now is the entry way rug. Not a small rug mind you, that's easy/cheap to replace. Nope, big area rug, $80.
Yesterday, I started switching his food to a better quality food, and apparently his tummy is a little sensitive. Both yesterday and this morning, the skids have let him poop on the rug. I was working, skids were in the living room and kitchen, relaxing/eating breakfast before they had to go to work. The puppy was out there with them, and pooped on the rug...both mornings. Then this afternoon, SD20 gets off work at 3:00, I tell her puppy hasn't pooped all day so if she's going to get him out of his kennel, she has to take him outside. She does but still no poop. SS18 gets home at 3:30ish. 3:45 I leave to get BD from school and stop to get gas in my car. I get a text at 4:30, he pooped on the same rug, same spot, again. Course no one had bothered to take him out since 3:00! Both skids were just sitting on the couch, playing with their phones!
When it's just me (before the kids get up for the day, and after they go to school/work), puppy is usually with me, sleeping by my computer chair. I remind DH that every day this week, when it's just me and the critters home, he hasn't had one single accident in the house. If it's slow at work, he has free roam of the house and I watch him like a hawk if he leaves the bedroom. If it's busy at work and he won't stay in the bedroom where I am working, he gets put in his crate. Pretty simple right?
But no, I'm too nit picky expecting the skids to seek him out if he leaves the room they're in. Damn me for being so nit picky when I'm trying to form good potty habits when house training a puppy!
***EDIT***
Puppy won't be re-homed, no matter if I have help or not. This is my dream dog, and when it's just me and him, he is the perfect puppy. He will just be off limits to all if they are not going to help with training/taking care of him. I just needed to vent about the shitty attitude I was getting from DH especially, and skids being totally lazy and irresponsible adult children!
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We just got him, he's only 9
We just got him, he's only 9 weeks old. He is the entire family's dog, and that's what pisses me off...I'm not the only one that committed to taking care of him before we got him, it was a family decision. SS18 has been whining that my dogs (the ones I had before moving in with DH) are too small and he wants a big dog he can wrestle with.
But now I am the only one that actually is taking care of him, and my poor rug is suffering! I set down a rule this morning that unless he is actively being played with, he's in his kennel or outside. I don't trust skids to keep an eye on him anymore.
Oh and I would GLADLY re-home the skids..I've told SS he can move out if he's tired of my rules but so far he's still here. SD is "supposedly" moving out in August when her BF gets back- he's from Hawaii but goes to school here in Idaho, so he goes back to HI in the summer when college is out. We'll see if it actually happens. I'm not holding my breath!
This makes me sad If you
This makes me sad
If you don't want the puppy then you should re-home him but if you do then just make it so he is YOUR puppy and YOURS only. They don't want to take him outside or feed him? Then they don't get to play and cuddle with him.
And any dog will get used to your schedule, so anyone telling you that you need to rehome him because you're too busy...not right. It's going to be tough for the first year I would say, but he will get used to your schedule. Just keep up with the training and treat him as YOUR own pet.
18 & 20... OMG! Drop the
:jawdrop:
18 & 20... OMG! Drop the droppings on their beds.
LOL, oh if only it were
LOL, oh if only it were droppings...his tummy is SUPER upset from the food change, LOL. If only I could train him to use their beds instead of my rug!
I am just curious and not
I am just curious and not being mean...but didn't you know this would happen? I know it would happen a most houses. The mom usually is the one to take care of the animal.
I think I would get rif of him, if you are going to make him be crated so much. Thats not a good life for a dog.
A trick to making them keep
A trick to making them keep an eye on the puppy, is to keep it on a leash whenever it's out of the crate. Not only does it make it easier to keep an eye on, but it's easy to grab the puppy up if an accident begins.
I used this method when I was fostering troubled dogs. It wasn't safe for the dogs or my other pets to let these animals run free in my home. I get 8' leashes and tied them to my waste, with the dog on the other end. That way my hands were free and doggie followed where ever I went.
If kids can't follow rules with letting the puppy out of the crate, put a lock on it. Or rehome the dog.
I am with everyone else
I am with everyone else here... It is time to rehome the puppy. You can contact a breed specific rescue, or if you got him from a breeder, most breeders will take back a puppy of theirs. If the skids or DH get upset, tell them that they caused this by not helping with the puppy. They are obviously not responsible enough to care for a puppy.
I apologize if this comes
I apologize if this comes across as harsh, but you were part of the decision making process when getting the dog, correct? Then the dog is your responsibility. If no one else is going to help and you cannot do it all alone, then you need to rehome the dog. But you can't just shrug your shoulders and say "they're not helping."
A really bad analogy but it will make the point as to where I'm going with this - you rent an apartment with two other people. You are all responsible for making sure the terms of the lease are adhered to. If one of you stops paying, all of you can be held responsible. The landlord doesn't care that Susie can't come up with her share. Marsha and Debbie will need to find a way to cover Susie's portion of the rent because they all signed the lease and all need to make sure the rent is paid, not just their own share.
Yes, everyone was supposed to accept responsibilty for the dog. But they haven't. You were one of the parties to the agreement. It looks like the choices are do it yourself or rehome the dog. This is not the dog's fault and his quality of life should not have to suffer because the kids don't understand responsibility.
And just to clarify, I am not
And just to clarify, I am not saying you need to rehome the dog. I think more often than not the "too busy" arguement is a cop out. I have a very well cared for dog who is home alone 4 out of 5 days during the week. (He goes to doggie daycare on Tuesdays
) We're busy people. But we make time to give him plenty of exercise and he has adapted just fine to our routines. He sleeps most of the day when we are gone (and sleeps most of the day on weekends when we're home), but in the mornings and evenings he is a great companion and I wouldn't trade him for the world.
Oh no, trust me. I won't be
Oh no, trust me. I won't be getting rid of the puppy, you're right, he is MY puppy now. I freaked out last night and neither skid has talked to me since.
I'm not saying I'm not going to take care of him. I have started putting a gate across my bedroom door so he stays in here with me, so I can see him at all times. I don't trust anyone but myself to take care of him from here on out. And if they're not helping take care of him, they definitely won't be enjoying/playing with him.
Good! Glad to hear it. What
Good! Glad to hear it. What kind of puppy, btw? (In case you can't tell from my screen name, I'm a dog person...)
IMO - there are 2 options: 1.
IMO - there are 2 options:
1. Re-home the puppy if you don't want to take care of it.
2. Claim the puppy as yours and train it.
We got a puppy because DH wanted the skids to have the experience of raising a puppy. I knew going in it would be me taking care of the puppy. And true to form I am the only one who takes care of her.
BUT there's a bonus with this as she only listens to me and follows me every where. Which now drives SS15, SS10 and DH crazy. They can't understand why she doesn't want to listen or play with them.
Too bad, so sad. They couldn't be bothered to put in the time to train her, now she won't bother listening to them. She knows who the Alpha is, and it's NOT DH }:)
~BettyRay
This will work out so
This will work out so perfectly, I already think it's funny when they whine and tell him "off" or "no" a million times because it's me training him already. It will be me taking puppy to puppy kindergarten, so it will only get "worse" (for them) and better for me
Tell them to clean up the
Tell them to clean up the poop, they'll make sure puppy gets out
LOL, if only it were that
LOL, if only it were that simple. I tried that...it was only done half assed. I could still smell it when I got home and they "cleaned it up". I put a white towel under need the rug, scrubbed the surface of the rug with another white towel and both were brown after a few scrubs.