Dh is soooo worried about where poor widdle SS20 is going to live when he gets out of jail on Saturday. He has said he's not coming here but since yesterday, he's mentioned a million times how worried he is about where SS is going to go. I worry if DH can't figure anything else out, he'll try to move him in here no matter what I say/think.

DH had a friend offer for SS to come there if the courts/probation would allow it (they live about 3-4 hours away from us), but that still leaves "where's he going to go for the time being, until SS's PO authorizes it" if they would.

DH was on the phone to this friend, talking about it, when suddenly his whole demeanor changed and he went outside, saying he wasn't getting very good reception. But he was for the other 15 minutes of the conversation???

Yeah, I had a gut feeling that he wasn't telling me the truth so when he went out, I cracked the sliding door open just a tiny bit and hear him say "I had turned SS's phone off because we didn't know how long he was going to be in jail, but I'm thinking about turning it back on for him when he gets out".

All along, DH has been saying we won't be helping SS monetarily at all. Not like we could afford to anyway, with DH being laid off. We're barely paying our bills on time.

I'm so pissed, that he would be saying this behind my back! What else is he thinking about doing that he hasn't told me about??? I'm sure he hasn't brought it up to me because he knows what my answer will be...not only no, but absolutely fucking no! The little asshole hadn't paid us for his phone for the past 3 months, was buying drugs instead. Fuck him, he can get a cheap throwaway phone, a prepaid phone.

I talked to my sister about this, she suggested not confronting DH just yet, see if he comes to me about it. Or see if he does it behind my back. Or even possibly that he was just saying it to "look good". Unfortunately, I won't know if he does it without telling me until next month, because our phone bills are separate since we were with different companies when we got together. So I wouldn't know it until he pays the bill and it's higher than normal.

If he does it behind my back, I will be furious. And I will transfer my paychecks back in to my old bank account, that he does not have access to. God I'm so pissed it's taking so much effort to not go out there and just start a fight about this!