Look, i know there is no way to reason with crazy people but an explanation as to there behaviour would suffice... someone please help!!

Long story short, when husband met me all hell broke lose with BM, she took the kids off him, threated to bash me, i was apparently too young for him (i am the same age) she told the kids lies about me, I was a whore and a stripper, she sent annonymous letters to hubby about me being a hooker!! she rang after every single access weekend to make complaints to him about me... the list goes on. At this stage she already had another baby to someone else who was smart enough to run away!!!

Fast forward 4 years, i still get snide messages via the sister on facebook, the skids tell me she calls me "the dog" still. Despite all of this i have kept my mouth shut because she is just an idiot that doesnt deserve my response and i honestly think that pissed her off even more.

Anyway, last week she rings my husband to tell him she has a new boyfriend and was wondering if it was ok to tell the kids, she asked for his permission!!! WTF he and i dont give a rats ass what she does the kids are nearly teenagers now!! Mind you he is 22 and she is 33!!! hypocrit

This weekend she rings hubby and asks him to talk to SD10 about her behaviour at BM house when the boyfriend is there, SD10 doesnt like him and is being bad to him and BM... she asked hubby to tell SD10 to behave herself.... At the time hubby didnt see the absolute hypocrisy in this situation and sure enough told SD10 to be good!!! At this stage i was absolutely livid, not only is it not HIS problem but she has clearly forgotton what she did to us!! believe me he has coped an earful from me as to how wrong he was to agree to talk to his daughter on BM behalf, he has learnt a valuable lesson, he just constantly tries to keep BM happy to keep her stable, but i say it is not up to us to control her children when they are with her, she took them off him to be a bitch and now she has to deal with it!

When she was pregnant with her other kid she would ring hubby for help because that boyfriend left her, she even asked him to sign the birth certificate and wanted hubby to be the father of it!!

What i want to know is, why???? why do these women behave like this are they that delusional to think that what they do is ok and accepted? She thinks it is ok to treat us that way but we have to bend over backward to help her? Does she truly believe that her bheaviour was/is justified when they try to destroy people due to there own jealousy?

Or does she try to maintain some kind of bond with hubby? does she think that he still cares about her enough to help her out, does she think they have something special with him? does she think she needs to call him about her life? Or was she expecting him to respond to her news of the new boyfriend and go into a jealous rage! I think that she honestly though hubby would be jealous, as if. if anything he feels sorry for the 22 year old who clearly is going to learn a life lesson soon.

Anyone have some insight on this? I am so baffled by this