I am glad I am getting to the point where my initial reaction to BM is laughing and thinking "why is she so crazy" We have been making strides with my SD, after a year of alienation and she has been properly DX'd, medicated, and in therapy school we have seen a 180 with her. Is she perfect, no way but what 14 year old is but the improvement is HUGE.

So Saturday SD came with me to a family baby shower and it finally gave us some one-on-one time. She and I were always fairly close (I consider myself lucky) except during the alienation period where I was called everything in the book. But she is a kid and I forgive her. I got to tell her how proud I am of her and the strides she has made the last year, she talked to me for awhile saying she would spend nights but worried about getting to school, I mentioned the therapy school stated they would bus from our house last year so that is still an option. All GOOD!

She had planned to come to our house last night for dinner, saying she would be later due to plans with a friend, okay we get it she is a teenager and friends are MUCH more important than us boring adults.

So.... BM sends a stand along text mid-day yesterday saying "Sofi lied to you about having plans with a friend, she had plans with me today and didn't want to tell you this was why she would come over after 5." Okay it's not a big deal but why did she have to send this message? Trying to prove she is somehow the more popular parent, because she goes shopping and buys her everything.

Then around 4:30 the TEXT began. From BM stating that "SD is not really feeling up to coming over tonight, she is tired and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings, so you have plans with her on the 18th, she and I are busy next weekend so she will see you then"

So DH follows up with SD, with a simple "So your mom says you are not feeling like coming over tonight and you have plans next weekend, would you want to come over sometimes during the week?"

2 minutes later BM test him saying "I am in the car with her and I saw that you messaged her, why are you putting pressure on her, you need to respect her feelings and she doesn't want to upset you she is sitting here asking me how to respond to you why do you have to create all this drama, why cannot you just leave it alone"

*As a side not since the alienation, BM has started the process to make modifications to child support by trying to prove that she is the "sole parent" So she has something to lose here, money. We were 50/50 and no one paid CS but DH has paid anything and everything she has asked in the last year, PLUS. Lots of money has went to his daughter, he is not a deadbeat. She cannot risk her daughter wanting to be with us more. Because that is money, also BM makes 120k a year (I saw her financials) and cried poverty.

Anyways DH Sends her back a message stating "based on your text it appears you are trying to create something that doesn't exist, please stop"

She responds that "SD feelings matter, they are important and you are not taking her seriously":

Followed by a text from SD "I would love to come over wither Tuesday or Wednesday, and I still want to come over next Sunday"

This morning a text from BM " SD shared with me that she would like to see you this week, just let me know when"

WTH! I mean I cannot make this crazy up, she is becoming more unnhinged the closer she is to losing all control