Who should set boundaries with adult kids
After my husband and I married we moved to a new home. I did not want to live in the home where he raised his now adult children ( 29 yr old and 35 yr old).; my husband agreed that this was the best plan as well. They ruled the roost in the home they grew up in ( even after moving out)and I naively thought that this would not be repeated in our new home.
When they come to our home it is not uncommon for them to invite friends over to socialize with without ever asking if that is ok with us. Today this happened again- they visited for a few hours , enjoyed snacks and drinks we provided , were not interested in me trying to join the conversation ( I attempted!). After they finally left I told my husband that I don't like that they continue to invite friends to our home without asking if it's ok. My husband said he has no problem with it and if I don't like it I need to tell his daughters. I think he should do it not me- I think me saying anything will backfire.