Ok for everybody that has followed my few post, I am one of the ones who finally had enough of adult stepkids and H's lack of a backbone, that I left. It will be a month tomorrow that I have found my peace. Anyway, H and I have not spoken since I left except he texted me about a week ago to tell me I had mail. It was only junk mail, nothing at all of importance, told him I would pick up my mail when I get the rest of my things. I still have some belongings i.e. stuff in attic etc. When I moved out I had hired movers and we didn't have enough room for those things I left. H had no problem with me leaving my stuff there. In-fact he was overly nice about it. The other thing he was overly nice about was our joint cell phone account. He is the name holder on the account and as I was working on moving out I found out that we could have my phone switched over to my name, but both of us would have to sign a document and provide copies of our drivers license. I tried to take care of this before I left the house, although he would never sign the document or make a copy of his license. Instead of arguing with him, I have just been depositing money into his banking account each month to cover my portion of the bill. I haven't gone to get my own phone because my phone number is majorly used for my job and I really need to try my best to keep the same number. When I tried to discuss signing the phone over to me, H seemed to not want this. At first I couldn't understand, then I figured out my phone records are his ONLY means into what is going on in my life (he changed the password to the online account). So, this past Saturday I was paying bills, planning on future bills. Not knowing when the cell phone bill is due, I sent H a text that just said "when is the cell phone bill due?". I have yet to get a reply. This isn't like him. Even if he doesn't want to talk to me, he still wants the money for my part of the bill. I wasn't just asking him that question to put money into his account either, I was going to try and workout getting the phone transferred before it was due again. I am trying to cut the ties. I have a decision to make. a)text him again to find out when it's due b)bite the bullet getting my own phone.

Some might think this isn't that hard to decide. Well one thing crossed my mind today because I do find it very strange he didn't at least say it's due XXXX. Then it HIT ME...SS that lives with him would always pick up his dads phone when it rang or dings with a text when his dad wasn't by his phone. I can't tell you HOW many times I saw SS do this. I was always shocked by it, but never said a word to his dad (I had already disengaged big time by then). About the time that I did sent the message Saturday would be about the time his son would be there and have access to H's phone. This SS would so be capable picking up H's phone seeing the message from me and deleting it. I wouldn't put it past him one bit! This is the son that in the end told so many outrageous lies to his dad and family about me, it's what cause the ultimate end.

I probably shouldn't be stressing over this too much, but I don't want H to think that I am pining over him (which I am not) by contacting him a bunch. I also don't want to piss H off due to me still having stuff at his house. I don't have the means to go get the rest of my stuff right now. I have been very sick for 2 week with 2 trips to the ER. I don't even have the strength to even if I had the means. And H would put my stuff on the curb in a heartbeat if I pissed him off. I saw him do this very same thing to his ex wife.