My husband and his ex wife enable my 20 year old step son. He lives with us (and by that i mean he comes once a week to crash til he moves on to another friends house for a week). The last few months hes been sued by his previous landlord, lost his job, lost histruck and is about to lose his motorcycle. Also, we found out from our local Crime Times paper (mug shots of recently arrested) that he had 3 felony charges against him, which he failed to mention to any of us, for grand larceny and breakin and entering. He was with his "friend" when this happened and he got the same charges. It was around this time that he came home to live and husband told him to stay away from that boy, help around the house when we need help (taking out the trash, mowing, feeding animals) and be home before 10 (i have a 7 year old). Well, after a few nights of coming home around 4 am and blaming it on a different friend, i look on good old facebook and find out the friend wasnt even there and the bad friend got arrested and thats why he was actually late...he still denied hanging out with this boy. This week, he up and left to the beach with this boy and called home late at night saying the person he went with was drunk and he had no where to go. We are 4 hours away from the beach, what does he expect us to do? And hes supposedly an adult...figure it out yourself! So, anyway, he posted on facebook that he went to tge beach with this kid and when my husband asked himif he was with him, he lied...and my husband didnt say a word. He came home and called around til his mother agreed to give him $300 to go backdown to the beach and "find a job"...yea...im sure thats what hes going to do with it....anyway, a side story to this that just came up last night...i had rx narcotics from the dr about a month ago, they turned up missing. I told my husband, well he doesnt want to accuse his son of taking the pills...so i let it go, kinda. Step son got mail yesterday and i took it in and put on his bed, and glanced around to see if i could find my meds. And i find 2 empty capsules in a duffle bag. I looked up the numbers on the pills and did a little research and low and behold kids are taking these pills now to get high. I showed my husband when he got home, and he flushed them...he said he didnt want my 7 year old to have them (my son only eats certain foods and absoultely no pills, he barely takes meds when hes sick, theres no way hed just happen to take one of these pills). I feel like hes trying to ignore all of this. He asked what the pills are actually prescribed for, i told him for lots of things, migraines, bipolar, seizures, help with weight loss, so he said maybe ge got them from his grandmother, who gets migraines. So i said well why dont you ask her, well he doesnt want her in his business (i have actually been prescribed this particular pill and was too afraid to take it because the first 4 weeks of taking it, its all different doses, theres no way i can see a grandmother giving her grandchild a rx pill with that kind of crazy dosing 2 pills). He just doesnt want to confront him. I told him that stepson needs an intervention, and not just with him, with his motger, grandmother, anyone else hes mooched off of...ugh...im so tired of this crap. Im tired of dealing with it, and i definitely dont want drugs around my son.