DW has been terribly heartbroken over the past two years mainly by SD 26 but SD 20 has done her part as well, however DW has been able to build some walls and defenses to SD26 which I am very proud of, the problem is she is still aloowing SD 20 the same lee way she used to provide SD 26 , when you come down to it they are the same, the major differences are that SD20 hasn't gotten arrrested or knocked up yet, there are temperment differences but they both just take and use who ever they can.

SD 20 has told DW she was trying to get her old job back from a fast food place, she walked out of it about a year ago.  DW believes that if SD 20 gets a job she will be" like her old self again".  Now I haven't asked DW what that means because even when she was working she didn't contribute, she didn't treat people better, etc etc etc, not sure what DW is expecting to see come from this.

DW has mentioned more than once that she can't stand to lose another daughter, and yes that is dramatic but SD 26 is on a path of death either by her own hand or anothers. DW seems to be ok ( really she just ignores it because of her fear of losing another daughter) with SD 20 not doing things around the house but of course if she does you would think she just saved us from a burning building and I say nothing (disengaged).

I guess every mother has to hold on to hope that their loser kid will become he bright shiney star that mommy wants to see them as.

Ok, that's my rant as triffling as it may be.