Things you don’t like doing with your skids
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For me it is eating meals with them. I don’t enjoy it because of their lack of manners and respect for others at the table. They are also so messy. I also don’t enjoy watching tv with them because we always have to watch what they want to watch and I have no input whatsoever. Sorry but reruns of kids shows and movies are boring. How about everyone else?
My only issue with SD12 is
My only issue with SD12 is that she is sneaky and spies on us for her mom. We have to watch what we say or what papers we leave out because nothing is off limits. BM actually encouraged SD to listen at our bedroom door to tell her about the sounds we make during sex. It is disturbing. I hate the feeling that we have no privacy.
I have no privacy as well.
I have no privacy as well. It is very sick that these women have nothing better to do and do not care about the damage they are doing to these kids.
No privacy for me either, the
No privacy for me either, the lil boy records what we say and tells his mom. Now we have to watch what we say or do in front of him and its exhausting! I hate watching TV with SS he will be talking too much because he just wants to be the centre of attention and not the TV. I hate doing ANYTHING with s kids that's the truth!!
Oh wow, a list I can make lol
Things I don't like doing with my SO's daughter(8):
Going out to eat- talk about feeling like a third wheel on someone else's date night!
Going to the store- She likes to walk in front of me & then stop. Then, I'm kinda forced to either run her over (& of course be the bad guy, bc I just ran over his kid) or stop also (so she can then take her daddy's hand) and leave me walking behind them.
Public places in general- because she is so freakin loud and wants everyone to look at her!
Swimming- always splashes me in the face, when I've said too many times I don't like that.
Going to visit friends or family- as she will constantly say how bored she is and how this isn't what she wants to do.
Ride in a vehicle with her- not fun- except for that time that we rode around looking at Christmas lights and singing along to Christmas songs on the radio. But I did make hot cocoa & we each had a thermos full for the trip. Mine was half full of Bailey's & butterscotch schnapps & I maybe I was the only one singing- loudly- and louder saying "come on you know the words sing it with me" if I heard the word 'bored'. But from what I remember of the night, I enjoyed it.
OMG yes the third wheel! It
OMG yes the third wheel! It's like I don't even exist... I sit at the table by myself on the other side while he "entertains" SD7. I can't even begin to go on about the non-existant table manners and whining. Thankfully, we don't take her out to eat much we usually only go out to eat (other than McDonald's which I refuse to eat at) while she's at BM's. I'd literally rather eat by myself.
The walking in front of me thing is SO true too lol. I've started to run her over and she's learned to get out of the way (oh my gosh, I didn't see you there!).
Vacation - It always sucks. I
Vacation - It always sucks. I have vowed to never go on vacation with skid again. It has been 4 years now that I’ve happily responded with “Nope! I’ll pass.”
Eating out - Skid is an extremely picky eater and over dramatic about it. Not a behavior I’m ever eager for my two littles to witness and adopt. She’s wasteful, too. It’s painful to watch. It kills the littlest bit of good time trying to be had by others. I just don’t go anymore.
When it comes to PigPen15 and
When it comes to PigPen15 and SD22, and SD25, darn near EVERYTHING. I honestly have NO desire to spend 1 second with any of them because they constantly vie for DH's attention. If one is talking, another will start saying "Dad. Dad. Dad." SO damn rude.
Christmas was freaking AWFUL. Piggy and the SDs were darn near falling all over each other to be the focus of DH's attention. You'd think they were all 4yo. This included interrupting, talking over one another, and talking louder and LOUDER to be heard. It's a Cacophony of Crap. SS19 is the only one who has developed any manners (thank you, Army) and wasn't an ignorant jackwad.
And I understand the concept of "it takes a village to raise a child", but it does not take SD25, baby daddy, their 8yo, SD22, and PigPen to all SCREAM at SD25/baby daddy's 2yo because he started to stick his fingers into SD25's glass of beer. Yep. Five people all screaming "NO, 2YO!! DON'T TOUCH!!!!!!" FIVE.
And PigPen said "BAD", which started the 2yo screaming.
To which SD25 screamed, "PIGPEN!!!! You cannot say 'BAD' to 2yo!! It upsets him!"
2yo screams even louder because Mommy said BAD.
Maybe they should let SD25 and baby daddy parent their brat-in-the-making...
Gads. it's 5 months 'til Christmas. ~sob~
I don't have a specific
I don't have a specific situation in mind but in general I hate doing anything with SS that BM has already done. I could pull up at a random resturant thinking we can have a Sunday brunch and SS will start with how he has already been there with BM or this time it wasn't as great as when he came with BM or other stuff. This doesn't happen often but I have definetely gotten more secretive with telling SS our plans. I am a planner and plan activitie for us in advance. I could tell say "oh this movie is coming out in a couple weeks, we will have to go see it with BS, yall will love it..." fast forward to the day we go to the movie and SS tells us BM took off work to take SS to see the movie before bringing him back to us. She's a competitor so she runs out to try to get all the firsts she can and to keep SS and DH or SS and me or SS and BS from having any special "us" moments.
Just trying to have a
Just trying to have a conversation with my SD27 is painful. She has the personality of a rock and the knowledge of a chair. Actually, most rocks are more interesting than her.
I don’t like going out in
I don’t like going out in public with them because they are little Sasquatches who have no manners and they fight like vicious animals in public. I also will not take vacations with them because they fight miserably and since their dad can only afford road trips with them, that means hours in a car with them fighting in the backseat. It also means them fighting and seeking attention in public places since public places are the only places available to us while we are on vacation.
lol.
lol.
i just snorted my Sprite at the phrase “little sasquatches” Great visual...the slumping, the lumbering...
Mine were like this when they were younger, too. I hated being out in public with them because they would squeal and fight and scratch at each other...when they were way too old to do so. When DH and I married they were 10, 12, and 14...and I remember several years of fighting after the marriage.
Hated going out to eat with them. Hated having them in my home. Hated buying anything for them...especially because there was about a 70% chance it would totally go to waste.
Hated traveling with them. Really, really hated when they were there when I was trying to enjoy spending time with my family. That was always the worst because I’d feel pulled in two directions and couldn’t just relax and enjoy my time with my family. They would say they were bored...at some point DH would always come up to me and in a hushed, urgent tone ask something like: “So, are there any PLANS or anything??!! The kids are feeling BORED. Are we doing anything...?”
I always told him...this IS the plan. Being here, at my mom’s/sister’s/aunt’s/etc. and talking and eating IS the plan.
It kind of hurt my feelings because we’d go do those exact same things with his family and he was fine...but with my family I was made to feel like we didn’t plan. It made me even more annoyed because I always gave him the option of not going and instead staying home with the skids...
Anyway. There was a brief period of time when I liked my skids and made an effort. But no more.
Mine are teenagers too. They
Mine are teenagers too. They just took a road trip with dad as their summer vacation and I and biokid stayed home. Biokid was the one who voted to not go because she didn’t want to be sitting in a car for that long with those violent creatures. I was happy to abide! Sounds like we are in the same boat. It sounds like at least yours are grown.
Yes - thank dog they are
Yes - thank dog they are grown and out (barely...last one turned 18 in late May). They do come visit some, but it's not too bad. The worst is DH's fantasizing about having them all around all the time...Empty Nest Syndrome is hitting him hard.
I still have PTSD flashbacks, though to when they were all here and were all the absolute worst.
Easier to do this from the
Easier to do this from the other direction - things I like to do with skid:
Nothing.
I was thinking the same thing
I was thinking the same thing!
Me three, nothing says it
Me three, nothing says it perfectly.
I don’t enjoy spending any time with them
Sad as I used to but not now. Same as you though, I find the close proximity of meal times/eating out and watching TV particularly difficult to deal with as it involves close interaction with them. I also never enjoyed overseas holidays with them which is why there won’t be another one with me. If DH wants to take them somewhere he can but it will not include me.
Nothing, nothing, nada.
Nothing, nothing, nada.
Not a whole lot. She knows
Not a whole lot. She knows how to make everything miserable, and she does it everytime
Living, breathing, etc etc
Living, breathing, etc etc etc. Yep NOTHING is fun to do with the Skids now the Gskids are a different story they are still young and cute but both have their moments.
Breathing the same air...
Breathing the same air...
I dropped the ball quite a while back.
Holiday with them. I've
Holiday with them. I've wanted to go to Disney my whole life, but my parents couldn't afford it. Instead, my OH and I took SD9 and SS14. SS14 was BRILLIANT. He and I went on lots of rides together, we did loads of the kiddy things and had a great time. SD9 is a horrid little demon! Spoiled, bratty, entitled, cheeky, didn't listen to a word we said. Helped herself to whatever she wanted, wandered off when we asked her to stay put, pushed me out of the way if I stood next to her father. "I want! I want!"
Come dinner time I was ready for the over priced average tasting wine
Never again.
Gaming. After we defeated
Gaming. After we defeated the original DOOM (he would ask me continuously “Daddy, let’s blow up monsters”) together while sitting on my lap when he was ~4yo I only played video games with him maybe twice. I’m jus not a gamer.
He has buried countless tens of thousands of hours into online gaming, etc.....
I/we always made it a point to do things together. Camping, hiking, fossil hunting, traveling, etc.......
He will recount his memories of any number of those things from his childhood. He tells stories about that stuff to his coworkers all of the time.
I make it a point to ask him to tell me about video game sessions he played at 4-5-6-7-8-9-10-11-12-13-14-15-16-17-18-..........26 and the only one he has memory of is the one he played last night.
I detest that he has wasted the overwhelming majority of his life on video games. This is why we purged them from our home when he was in 6th grade.
I am extremely proud of the man that our son is and his recent engagement of a therapist to help him engage effectively in real life rather than the digital universe just makes even more proud of I wish for him to get that put and kept into a reasonable and proper perspective in his life so much more of the world can experience what a great guy he is.
My answer is gaming.
Vacations - it's never
Vacations - it's never relaxing, SD complains the whole time, and ruins it for everyone. DH even agrees.
Public places in general - stores, restaurants, etc. SD hygeine is terrible and she looks disheveled constantly. It's not because of a lack of resources. It's just her laziness. Her appearance is embarassing.
Any friend/family gathering - SD is antisocial. Everyone ends up feeding into the drama and asks DH and I "what's wrong with ____?" Nothing. That's just her crummy personality.