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some time ago sd totaled her care while texting. she is still in college, so it was agreed that she would get my old car and dh would buy me a new car.

then when i bought myself something nice with my own money dh snarled and said if i would afford to buy nice shoes then i had better start putting money toward the new car. what?!

i told him the reason i needed a new car was because dh was careless and crashed her car. this was into someone else and totaled his car. i told dh that i was not buying a new car for sd. btw dh did not ask sd to pay for this car as it was already paid. and in almost pristine condition with low miles.

well this old car of mine had a faulty window that did not raise up or down and had to stay up. i asked dh to fix it for me and he said that it had to be taken to the dealer. i could not get off of work so easily so for months drove around with a broken window. no helping me or even checking to see if it could be fixed.

well sd is now complaining about the window and not being able to drive up to food windows in drive throughs or roll window down for cool air.

in no time dh is going over to her house to fix it. he even bought the parts for the repair.

its nice to know just how much dh loves me.

Why are you with someone who

Why are you with someone who obviously cares so little about you?

He is a horse's ass. Not

He is a horse's ass. Not even. These Disney Dads can't bear to deal with bitching DDs. WTF? So we get chest pains and over eat comfort foods or drink or whatever in order to DEAL? Why? Because we are the adult? OMG I feel for you, I really do. I go through the same crap with DH and SD19 going on 6yo.

~ Moon

its the mini wife syndrome.

its the mini wife syndrome. it turns my stomach.

and i have disengaged from this. it will back fire when sd cant find a man her own age to put up with her crap.

She'll just find an old man

She'll just find an old man dumb enough to put up with her.

Why do you stay with a man who treats you this way?

Sorry....but Why are you guys

Sorry....but Why are you guys even helping out an adult by giving her a car? My parents never bought me anything when I got older. I started working at the age of 11 and I bought my own Playstation 2, cell phone and minutes. I was even demanded to pay my mom's bills at the age of 16 even though my mom was married to my idiot stepdad. You kids have it way too easy in life these days. When things are handed down and NOT EARNED, it is very easy to take things for granted. And FYI, I'm a 25 year old woman to date. I'm not a man.
I hate to come off harsh and I understand different families are more fortunate. But some times parents have to practice the power of limiting luxuries to their children so that they don't become handicapped in this world and fed by the hand.
I'm proud to have struggled these hardhsips because I know how to SURVIVE and not take things for granted. Life could have been a little easier if I was a little more fortunate, but at least I can't ever be called a spoiled brat. SD totaled the car by TEXTING? Do you guys pay for her phone too? Tell her to get a job and save up for a car. There are plenty other adults who have kids to feed, work FULL TIME, and get an education just to advance in life!!!!

ooooh and I bought my own car

ooooh and I bought my own car at the age of 18 for $2000 working after school everyday till 10pm. My boyfriend at the time taught me how to drive his car, because my mom didn't dedicate the time nor her car to teach me. That's reality.
Your husband is a big time DISNEY DAD. You need to set him straight.

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sd has dropped out of

sd has dropped out of university and been kicked out of military. she has been given everything and has had to work for nothing. of course her fathers guilt guides all of his actions.

and then when dh asked me to pay for payment for the new car i was driving i am sure you can imagine what i told him and where to go.

a free car for sd and i have to pay for my new one. oh hell no.

Good. dont make yourself

Good. dont make yourself victim and fall in her whirlpool of destruction. She doesn't need another person to fund her reckless lifestyle.

isnt it disgusting? i am

isnt it disgusting? i am sure if it was sd hed be out there on the car lot buying her a new car.

When my son's car tore up, I

When my son's car tore up, I loaned him my old car so he could continue to work. DH threw a fit, even though he hadn't paid a dime on that car. It was bought and paid for long before we ever met. Then he wanted to buy my son a crappy $500 car so we could get mine back. (I drive our new vehicle and he drives the company truck. It's not like we're desperate for another vehicle.)

So a few weeks ago, DH told someone that when SD13 turns 16 he's gonna buy her a 4WD pickup truck. My mouth dropped open. I asked him where he planned to find a 4WD truck for $500??? He was confused until I reminded him that he only plans to spend $500 on a vehicle for my son. Why would his DD be any different???

He hasn't mentioned it since.

I am the one who makes MOST of the money in our household. If he thinks he's gonna buy SD a nice vehicle on MY dime he's so very sad mistaken. Oh hell no... not gonna happen.

i just stand back and let

i just stand back and let them dig a deep hole for themselvs. ditto for mil and fil who pissed away their retirement with expensive vacations. now that are too old to work and need to beg from the only child who made anything of themselves. too bad i am married to him.