We use Outlook Express to check email, but you can do this with just about any email application. Create a separate folder in your inbox with DH's name on it just for these messages. Then set up a filter that will automatically take these messages out of your inbox and put them in that folder. This way, you don't have to see them, unless you look in his folder, and it becomes HIS job to check HIS folder to see if HE has any emails in there which require HIS attention. If you do this, then you both sort of "win" the argument, because you don't have to see the emails and he doesn't have to set up a separate account.

We did the above and it helped both of us, because moving these messages to a different folder automatically without us having to see them in our inbox relieved a lot of stress. When we were ready to deal with BM, then we would look in the folder and read/reply to her emails, but we didn't have to be bombarded with them throughout the day. This helped us pick and choose when to be contacted by her and sometimes having that little bit of control helps.

~ Anne ~

"Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission."
-Eleanor Roosevelt

I agree with Anne ... I'm not sure if you can set up a rule with other email programs, but I know you can on Outlook and Outlook Express. If you don't use those you can easily have your ISP help you set up Outlook or Outlook Express as a POP3 to your regular email ... in other words, a copy of your email will go into Outlook, and still remain on your ISP's server - depending on how you set it up. The you create the rule so that anything from them goes into the "ICK" (I love that) folder. Think I might do that too ... I don't mind reading the emails, yes I get steamed, but ... I like the idea of the "ICK" folder. =0)

~ Katrina

I would suggest to him that he simply register for a Hotmail or Yahoo account. GMail too. They're all free and you don't have to worry about setting up subfolders or dealing with your ISP. And DH can still use your family email for everything else...just not for dealing with HER. Hell, you can even set it up for him and give him the user/password info so that he doesn't have to do much. I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. I wouldn't want to deal with BB's nonsense in my own mailbox on a regular basis myself.

Good luck!

I am not my husband's secretary & he better not dare assume I am. This should be determined "before" the marriage & reinforced on an "if needed" basis.

I answer it. She knows it is family email so whoever picks it up- answers... she doesn't like my answers, so she stopped emailing him altogether. It worked out nicely. He blocked her from his personal email. He doesn't want to deal with her anymore than I do... so we make it as difficult as possible. He won't answer his phone when she calls. She can leave a message and he will decide if he needs to call back. 90% of the time he doesn't. She used to call 60+ times a month. That is twice a day on average. I don't know about y'all, but I can't think of ANYTHING that I would have to say to my ex-husband twice a day... everyday. She got the hint and stopped. Now she rarely calls him and tries to call me, I don't answer either. : )

Daddys Gurl-

Life is as sweet as you sweeten it.

I don't think its out of order to reply to each email:

'F off and get a life. Goodbye'

Or is that just childish? }:)