I love when karma is swift, it makes it hard to deny
Sd was over the other night (we were having a large family get together and her uncle that worship her were present, so if course she came) and my neice was asking about colleges in state (her father who passed away was in the native so she gets free state college). I mentioned the college my daughter is attending (approximately 300mi away) , and sd says "ewwwww that school?" And laughs!
I got used to not having a and her snotty behavior around, and i miss my daughter SO MUCH! It took everything in my power not to cry in front of everyone. I left the room to some breaths and came back into the room... and proceeded to talk to my neice.
ANYWAYS! 2 nights ago, DH gets a call that sd is in the hospital vomiting, and had vomited some blood, DH told BM to keep him updated. Turns out she got pneumonia...
Now I agree, it sucks that she got pneumonia, but that's karma. You're an ugly little $#!t, you get what you deserve.
Quit walking away and mitigating the evil shit of an SD's
behaviors.
You should have called her on it in real time in front of everyone.
"You are rude and nasty. When, and if, you actually go to college, you better hope it is Harvard or I will make sure that you are made aware of the deficiencies of any college that would accept you. Now, leave the area and stay gone until you can cap your idiocy and be decent. MOVE!! NOW!!"
Lather, rinse, repeat.
Shit kids like this SD are intolerable. So stop tolerating her until she earns it with acceptable behavior and nothing less..
Why are you advocating for OP
Why are you advocating for OP to stoop to that level and make crappy comments? What you wrote is ruder and nastier than some spoiled, immature twit saying "eeewww that college" and laughing. Pffffft. Understandable that OP misses her daughter and is emotional, but why add fuel to an attempt to start a fire? Options:
Manys the time I could've made craptastic comments to my skids, but chose to take the high road. TBH, had I said things like you suggest, I doubt I'd have the great relationships with them that I have now. Several times, they've remarked on me continuing to be kind when they were "sh!tty". Maybe OP's SD will mature and realize she was a jerk and apologize, like my skids did. *unknw*
Sure, if there's no hope of ever having so much as a polite relationship, go to war. It won't make things easier.
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Definately much classier.
Though far too many of these failed family progeny do not respond to kind or subtle. Kind and subtle rarely qualify as a consequence that changes the toxic behavior.
Cutting, immediate, and direct may be needed.
Though only the people present and dealing with them on a regular basis know what is necessary. Apparently, the OP and her mate to not appear to have found what is effective for the toxic presence in their lives.
You have obviously never seen
You have obviously never seen me cut someone dead. It takes skill to ignore the raging bull in a china shop, lightly dance a path around, and look straight through them as though they're invisible. TBH, I find it much more satisfying than engaging in a test of wits with an unarmed opponent.
Lol. I have no doubt that the wrath of Aniki is no place to
be at the sharp end of.
I think Karma is usually an
I think Karma is usually an in-kind of form of punishment.
For instance, you cut someone off on the highway, and karma gives you a flat tire OR you have been waiting for a certain parking spot and someone jumps in front of you. Then again, I'm not an expert on karma, but I don't see the connection between being a snotty jerk and getting pneumonia (which can kill).
The current societial use of the term karma, not necessarily accurate to Buddhism or Hinduism in particular, is akin to what many of us (incorrectly) refer to as irony.
The punishments or rewards are usually in-line with the offense or good deed.
I hope your SD recovers completely and gets the kind of karma that will hopefully humble or educate her.
Im sorry youve had to deal with this snot for so long
Just focus hard on your bio and what a fabulous success she will be and the wonderful life she will have.
((hugs))
You've got to stonewall that
You've got to stonewall that B. Her thoughts and behaviors hold no weight. Don't give a flying F about what she thinks, feels, states. Do not let it impact you anymore.