Well, if you have been following the drama, we have received back the house keys we asked my DH's son to send back. We really doubt he has copied them. Now that our concerns are out on these boards, we hope this will deter him or his fiance from trying to pull anything. We are pretty certain they are still reading our posts here. They will know (because of their snooping) that we are watching them. I have told my sister of our concerns. Her son is retired military (special forces) so he knows how to track people down, if they try and pull something.

Anyway, the real reason for this post is to ask you for a reality check. We appreciate your input.

If you heard your DH's son and his fiance say the following things, wouldn't it worry you?

Some things said by fiance:

-"It took me three years to work on him to ask me to marry him."

(Fiance is well educated, attractive, and smart, so why would she have to "work" on anyone to get them to marry her? We wonder if she sees my DH's son as a source of money. He is in a career where he can, and probably will, make a lot of money. The fiance asked me if I felt she was using my SS, and I told her yes, and why I felt this way - which was based on the above statement. She did not deny she said it, nor did she say she was "only kidding, that it was a joke". She had no answer...just silence.)

-"I don't like working with adults, I want to work with children."

(To us, this - and many other things she has said and done - shows how she likes to be in control. She can't control adults, but she can exert more control over kids.)

-"I am the one who found you on StepTalk, and you need to see how wrong you are to post things there, and stop." (paraphrased)

(She admitted in a matter-of-fact way that she was 'stalking me' and then proceeded to correct me on my bad behavior for venting here.)

-"I can't believe she (the EX) would do such a thing - I don't believe it."

(The fiance seems very protective of my DH's EX).

Some things DH's son has told us:

-"She (fiance) really likes to shop."

-"She likes to collect COACH purses."

(If you don't know, these purses are VERY expensive.)

-"It isn't going to happen."

(This was SS's answer to my DH's request that his fiance start treating us with more respect.)

These are just SOME of the things we have seen and heard done and said over the years. To us, it shows a pattern of immaturity, and materialistic behavior. There are many other examples we have, but we don't want to make this post too long. But, to us all of it seems to point to two very immature, materistic people, headed towards trouble in their future marriage.

Are we reading too much into these statements? We don't think we are. To us, they are warning signs.