Hello all,

Lol - after a year of the BM causing all kinds of trouble with the skids, going off on my DH about me, crazy rambling voicemail messages on our wedding night, having the kids call us begging to come get them because she was plastered at a school function, BM calling the cops on us because she was so drunk she forgot we said we could have them, driving DH's truck without permission when we loaned it to SD, sitting on her ass and only working 30 hours a week at a low paying job, drinking, partying, and smoking in her spare time then telling the kids she has to go on welfare - and all through this, I stayed totally neutral with her. Hell, I took her on a weekend paid vacation with us because I accidentally booked it on mother's day. I finally snapped when we received her response to our court paperwork requesting changes in visitation and child support. She references me in a snarky way throughout all of it as the "new wife" and provides all kind of erroneous info about me that has nothing to do with the case. She also asked for supervised visitation (lol). She told DH she was going to push for that if he didn't let her have the kids for all holidays. Hmmmm....yeah that sounds like its in the KIDS best interest, doesn't it?

I sent her two straight to the point emails - no foul language or anything nasty, but I let her know exactly what I thought of her. I make more than $100,000 a year, which she knows from our court paperwork and I just let her know that she chose to sit on her ass for 16 years and still does so our difference in lifestyles should not be something that she gets worked up about - its her choice. She is also an absolute pig - I have never seen such dirty toilets and walls in my life. Yet she is constantly asking DH to repair things around the house when we pick up the kids and bitched and moaned for months about the carpet in the bedroom he said he would replace three years ago when they are married. I let her know that I would be doing no more driving so she'll have to drive one way and that the most DH and I will do to help with home repairs from now on is buy her a good toilet brush. She likes to pretend that she is this strong, independant woman who sacrificed her career and education to stay home with the kids (her words). I asked her what the hell was holding her back now since they'be been separated for almost three years and she hasn't done anything to improve her situation.

BM was pisssed!!! She is so stupid she still keeps the same email address and password on her email account that she shared with DH while they were married. He was never computer savvy (back then) so I guess she wasn't worried about it. She uses the same password and email addresss for Facebook so we've been able to get in there and pdf all of her posts to her retarded friends laughing about how she sits around with the Skids talking about what a bitch I am and how stupid DH is. That should go over well in mediation when we bring our copies of all the things she has said online (the kids are friends with her and can see all of it). The best part was that she had absolutely nothing to say about me, even when writing a response for her friends to laugh over that she didn't have the guts to send me. I think the worst thing she could come up with was that I was "mean". She also called me a couple nasty words, but frankly, if all you can come up with is swear words, I think I won.

While we were there we had a fun evening BBQing, drinking wine, and laughing about all the different mean ways BM's "boyfriends" dumped her. Almost all of them on Facebook or email and several by telling her it wasn't worth the drive to her house (lol - this guy lived an hour away) or that none of it meant anything to them and they were back with their ex-wife. This was someone she used to say she was in love with.

I also found out that she was planning to ask ME to be the visitation supervisor - I knew there was no way she was going to do any additional work or have the kids longer than necessary. She literally shoves them out the door every time its our weekend and goes on and on over Facebook about how she can't wait to have them gone so she can sleep or party. We have them this weekend and even after the court paperwork and claim that "supervised visitation" was necessary, she got all upset that we told SS that he didn't have to come with us if he didn't want to. She demanded that we physically pick him up and force him to go. Good lord I hate this woman.