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Sometimes you just can’t keep your mouth shut. lol

Willow2010's picture

Small vent.
SS moved way across the country when he got out of the military a few months ago. Mainly because BM lost her frigging mind when the SSs child was born. She got very possessive of the baby and started hating on SS wife. (They all love each other again)

But SS calls DH at LEAST 3 times a day. He does not work and does minimal school so he keeps the baby a lot. If DH does not answer the 1st time, SS will call back over and over until DH picks up. I counted 4 consecutive calls one time when DH was not by his phone. Then he called my phone! Lol. I can only take SS in small amounts so I did not answer it.
I was feeling a little bad for him cause it seems he may be lonely and that is why he wants to talk all the time. I was wrong. See convo below….

DH: Hey SS quit drinking a while back. (said with pride)
Me: That’s great, why did he do that?
DH: He started smoking pot. It is legal in his state. And it is no worse than drinking.
ME: WTH? So what if it is legal? He is a new daddy. Is he doing that around the baby?
DH: Of course not…he goes outside.
ME: So you are telling me he gets freaking stoned while he is alone with the baby?
DH: (letting that sink in). Oh gah I guess so. But it is no worse than alcohol.

Disclaimer…I am very disengaged. Always have been. One reason SS and I have a pretty good relationship. And I usually do not comment on things of this nature but I let it get to me. Lol

ME: HE SHOULD NOT BE DOING EITHER ONE WHEN HE HAS THE BABY!! Not rocket since here dh!
DH: You are right, not sure why I thought it was so ok….

ARRRGG!! How can parents be so damn stupid? I am including DH, SS and DIL if she knows this is going on.
But I know now why SS calls so much…he is getting high and wants to talk to someone. UGH!

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notasm3's picture

Ss32 and his GF smoke weed and cigarettes daily around their child who is not quite 2. And drink to oblivion.

But I have nothing to do with any of them. I do feel sorry for the poor child though.

Thumper's picture

notasm

IS pot legal in the state they live in?

Your SS32 and his GF smoking weed around their 2 year old IS cps worthy. Pot heads regardless of how much they tell you they can parent, they CANT parent when high.

You are under zero obligation to take a child in and UNDER your care even if cps were to remove your husbands grandchild.

your obligation is to report if you see something or you are aware of it. AGAIN your not obligated to care for the child.

Makes me very sad when I hear poor little kids dealing with parents who use.

mtnwife530's picture

CPS Have a Problem with it??????

You'd be surprized :? Last year, we got up earlier on morning, about 6:30 (not sure why, I don't go to work til noon! Lol) Anyway, the phone rang, REALLY strange for that hour. It was our local CPS, apparantely they had been calling since 4am (we can't hear the phone from our bedroom) my brother and SIL had gotten themselves arrested on a domestic (that's a whole other site) and wanted to know if I was willing to take my 2 nephews (HS and Elem.) They're goood boys so I said yes, and I knew DH wouldn't want to see any kid go to foster care either. The gist of it is, they had a bit of a process to go through to get the boys back (yeah, it took a week) home visits,etc. And CPS could tell they smoke pot, CPS they "WEREN"T CONCERNED ABOUT THE POT!" but absolutly no alcohol! A that's when it was still just supposed to be for "medical use" No Kidding!

Thumper's picture

WILLOW---I would have lost it. What the hell is wrong with parents? I might be tempted to say GET IT TOGETHER SS and stop being a stoner around your baby. Stupid ass. And next thing don't call MY house when your high. Go ahead dipSh** see what happens when your pulled over and charged with Driving impaired. DONT call here.

---------------------------WILLOW there is nothing that sets ME askew is when parents act this way around innocent kids. I can not tolerate it. IF You want to smoke pot or your a crack head do it all you want but NOT ever around minor kids.

mtnwife---wow 'that' cps must be a bunch of backwoods, uneducated group of people.

CPS must act within the circle of the law....they are required to. IF your state is a non-legal state for pot,,,CPS must follow that. I would have reported that social worker and her sup to her supervisor out of your states Health and Human Services Office.

Anyone can get a medical BUZZ card. Funny how they don't use the oil but they NEED the joint.

Wow, it only took a week to get the kids back? They are very lucky Usually they are in care for a few months until the next court calendar opening for CPS hearing. Typically between 3 to 6months depending how busy your county is.

DaizyDuke's picture

What a tool box. "Well pot isn't as bad as alcohol". lmao Well alcohol isn't as bad as heroine, so that should be OK too right? And heroine isn't as bad as crack, so that should be OK too right??

These guys will find a way to justify ANYTHING! lol

Is your SS not in the military any more? Why is he not working?

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

If he is in the military still, the military loves random drug tests... Even though pot is legal in some states, its not federally legal for federal employees, which military members are... So I'm sure explaining to his chain of command everything will be fun...

Willow2010's picture

Nope…he is out.

Apparently the military will support him for the next several years if goes to college. (right now he goes 2 days a week in the evening for a few hours) I guess he can drag this out for a while. But SS is terrible at school so not sure how long that will last. And he is also STILL trying to get disability from a made up physical issue. (IMHO)

The boy may never actually have to work again because he served in the military for a few years.