Just for a moment... I gotta say this...

I'm gonna get a little mushy.

I have to thank you, my steptalk people. I know I don't have a lot of input or advice on a lot of your posts. And I do come here to vent and ask advice. I feel a little selfish sometimes because I don't have much to say on other posts. I do read them, and I do take a lot of what is said on other posts in to consideration in my own situation. I just feel like my own situation is so complicated it's difficult for me to think beyond that some days. You all have been so supportive and encouraging through all of this with SS and crazy ass BM, and I know it isn't over yet. I just wanted to say from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU.

That is all

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Yes. The validation is huge.

Yes. The validation is huge. So many people in the same general situations.

i heart you too, bs. it's so

i heart you too, bs.

it's so sad how losing the bm to meth is not rare. and STalk is truly a blessing when it comes to support, either we've shared similar experiences or have a different point of view or objective opinion - so many from different walks of life, coming together on this board to support and help literal strangers.

When I first came here I/ WE

When I first came here I/ WE thought WE were loosing our minds. Attorneys looked at us like we were off our rockers, 'our story' was bar none the ONLY one they have heard of in all the years of practice. Complete bologna. What we experienced is average in high conflict

And then I found ST.

One by one each story sounded the same. When I told my husband "YOUR NOT ALONE" there are other families going thru the very same and I mean the very same thing. Relief came across him.

First lesson I learned was to put a boundary around your home, NO you do not have to allow anyone inside your home you don't want inside. And NO you do not have to answer 20 calls in a day from anyone OR 10calls from 1 person, 5 calls from BM MOM, 2 calls from the church people and 3 calls from pretend friends all at the direction of BM. And NO you do not allow anyone to micro manage your home, or your life. EVER (yes a court order is different always follow a Judges orders--some do not)
Remember it is YOUR home too, your bios are YOUR bios and they matter as much as skids and your duty as a MOM or DAD is to protect your kids. AND NO ncp does not have to do what cp wants during that visitation time. And NO BM, ncp really doesn't have to exercise visitation on your demand either.

No there is not an invisible Red Carpet for any child out front of your house and visitation is designed for kids to be in the family doing normal things. IF mowing the grass is a Sat event, mow the dam grass. IF everyone sits around eating cereal and watching cartoons IN their jammies, do it.

Visitation is NOT designed to have minute by minute, play by play 200 bucks a day activities just because you hear from the ex 'YOU DONT DO ANYTHING WITH THE KIDS"....wow that was a huge wake UP call. Thanks ORANGE COUNTY, visitation IS about normal family going's on's to continue to bond, build and have a healthy meaningful relationship.

I could go on and on---but I am very thankful for ST.
Giving back to those who just started this journey in great effort that NO one has to go thru what we did.