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Just because you let him in your pants doesn't mean you should let him into your child's life

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Submitted by I.hate.cats on Tue, 07/28/2015 - 9:30am

BM sleeps around. It's not me putting her down, I'm just stating the facts. She met DH while she was casually sleeping with one of his friends and DH was dating one of her friends. BM started sleeping with DH all while lying to her friend about it. Now I admit that DH is guilty of being a cheater and wrong for that however I do think it takes a certain kind of snake to steal your friend's boyfriend. Karma's a bitch though because BM cheated on him and here we are today.

BM has had an on again off again volatile relationship with her now ex boyfriend and during their off phases we would see BM with a guy that we'll call Dan. Personally I find it morally reprehensible to introduce every loser you sleep with to your kid, especially when she's not there all of the time. Now that the ex boyfriend is out of the picture Dan is back and was at BM's when DH picked up SD6 last week. Yesterday BM said she could have Dan drive SD to summer school.

DH had a huge issue with this since he doesn't want SD exposed to every slimeball that BM hooks up with. BM didn't understand why it was a problem. Since DH and I have been together BM has gone through 2 relationships and several partners. Her being a whore is none of my business but seriously, our concern is how long before she brings the wrong douche bag around and something happens to SD? Not to mention the fact that it doesn't exactly set a great example for SD. There are guys that prey on single women with kids for that reason. I know that BM won't change and I'm just basically venting but I think it's really sad that SD6 gets exposed to all of this.

She actually asked me last week if I was cheating on DH. I was so taken aback by the question and asked why she would even think something like that, to which she replied "Mommy said her boyfriend cheated on her and that's why they broke up." A 6 year old girl shouldn't know anything about cheating. The whole thing is just pathetic.

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Submitted by mommy0104 on Tue, 07/28/2015 - 10:34am

Yeah, BM is being stupid..but as we all know..BM's can do what they want but if DH's were to do the same, it'd be "back to court we go"..ugh! Sorry your skid has to deal with this drama!

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Submitted by Snowflake on Tue, 07/28/2015 - 10:57am

Unfortunately it seems to bms get away with doing this nonsense but stepmothers are all whores and sluts for being with biodad.

Bm in my situation has introduced the skids to no less then at least 4 guys. She has had numerous bfs since her youngest was in diapers. Her and my dh broke up when she was preggo with not dhs baby. But I am the bad guy for being with my dh in a stable married relationship for a long time.

But bm knows better of course, because introducing your kids to your screw -er- boyfri me of the month is much better then watching your dad in a stable relationship.

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Submitted by kathc on Tue, 07/28/2015 - 8:39pm

Ours does this, too. It sucks but it is what it is. Secretly, I kind of like that she's a whore because I figure it gets her more exposure so hopefully one of the suckers will actually marry her and get her to go away forever. We always enjoy complete silence from her when she's for a new victim, er, boyfriend. She gets bitchy when she gets dumped and has to be slapped back into her place.

Eta, we get the same idiocy. Dh dated a few women before me, never introduced them to skid. Then we got involved, here we are today. YEARS later. Meanwhile, bm has a new "friend" every few weeks and liked to act like I was just a temporary fling.

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Submitted by I.hate.cats on Wed, 07/29/2015 - 8:56am

Our BM is doing the "he's just a friend" song and dance and when DH called her out on it, she accused him of talking to her ex-boyfriend and said she'd go file papers so that her and DH would have to communicate through a 3rd party. The funniest part about it is everyone knows she's a whore, so DH didn't need to get the info elsewhere, it's basically 2+2=4. She tried to tell DH this morning that she'd only been with 2 men SD's entire life, which is hysterical because there was DH, the guy she cheated on DH with, a few one night stands or week long flings, 9 months with A, a few more one night stands, 1.5 years with J and now "Dan". Not to mention the dude she met on match.com, slept with then claimed to have been roofied when J caught her cheating.

Then she says "Ok, well I get to judge you then, and how many women have been in your life in the last two years?" DH says 1 i.e. me. BM replies with you haven't been together for two years and she's right, in January it will be three and we've been married for 18 months. To make it even more messed up, DH told her that we'd be leaving to come get SD for summer school and she says "don't bother" and had Dan drive her instead. There is NO REASON, I mean not a single one, that some man she barely knows should be driving SD anywhere or be alone with her especially when DH and I were able and willing to pick her up. Then she called DH a bully and said she's going to take him back to court. She's too stupid to know that we filed MONTHS ago and have just waited until 30 days before the court date to serve her.

Usually a new douche means that she's pawning SD off left and right and she's here more often but Dan was at her house when DH picked SD up, she's got him driving her to summer school and she just broke up with J less than two WEEKS ago. If she hadn't had her tubes tied I'd have changed her ringtone to Ace of Bass "All that she wants is another baby." Haha.