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SAP, SS and money $$ : need to vent

Caroline2b1211's picture

Submitted by Caroline2b1211 on Fri, 05/14/2021 - 11:06am

Hi everyone, 

Today, SS called his dad. DH was so happy about that call when he heard the phone ring.

Since april big drama, DH never received any phone calls from SS besides the fact that he uses his phone permanently. It's always DH who calls, so this time he was so happy !

But, but, but....

SS9 called to ask for money : 600€ ! To buy a new game console because *edit* we he broke his. Obviously, DH refused and SS9 started an argument about what DH pays for our baby. 
He knew the price of the bed, the crib and the changing table (they were offered by my family but not the point). 
And told his father if he didn't buy the 600€ game console, this would be the proof that DH prefers the baby. 
 

DH was so shocked about the talk. A 9yo boy talking about the price of a crib ! Do you imagine ! 
 

I guess grand mother alienation just works as they planned. Wondering how the next holidays will go on
 

 

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tog redux's picture

Submitted by tog redux on Fri, 05/14/2021 - 11:15am

So - he should say, "We will discuss this when you come to our house".  Then talk to him about how he knew that the crib cost so much? Why does he think Grandma tells him these things? Does she tell him that DH prefers the baby? Etc.

Caroline2b1211's picture

Submitted by Caroline2b1211 on Fri, 05/14/2021 - 2:06pm

Guess he will talk to him when he comes home. 
But sure, we need to figured out what's going in his mind and what's GMa is telling him. 
Then, DH will have to try to deconstruct GMa speetch. But i guess it will be really difficult to have any result. 
 

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Submitted by Rags on Fri, 05/14/2021 - 11:33am

Fortunately far more GMs are a positive influence than a negative influence.

Our particular cross to bear for the 16+ years we lived under my SS's CO was the SpermGrandHag.

She spent most of SS's long distance SpermLand visitation time PASing the Skid, badmouthing his mom, ranting about how I was not his REAL dad, loading the Skid with her bullshit on how the CS they paid for him was taking food out of the mouths of his three  younger also out of wedlock SpermIdiot spawned half sibs, and loading him down with her bullshit on how it was not fair that SS had nice things and his younger sibs didn't.

The pittance they paid in CS bought several new homes for us, new cars, paid for luxury vacations, etc, etc, ewtc..... At least according to the SpermGrandHag. 

I have promised myself that I will attend her funeral and piss into her open grave.

We learned that the the most effective way to manage her was to bare her ass, keep a rolled up copy of the CO, the supplemental county rules, and the State regulations handy to beat her about the head and shoulders with, and to drag her idiot serial statutory rapist under age womb donor breeding idiot son into court whenever the Hag got out of line.  The Hag and SpermGrandPa paid every penny of their idiot son's CS obligation for the support of my Skid, they paid for the Idiot's half of visitation travel, they raised his three  youngest spawn in their home with zero financial participation by the idiot... .while he lived rent free in one of their rental properties and drove their hand me down cars.

I agree with seasoning SS with the facts when he is on visitation with  your family.  Keep him fully aware of the facts and every sordid little detail that counters GrandHag's and her idiot spawn's PASing toxic manipulation of this kid.

My greatest daily joy, after seeing my incredible bride, is how great my son (SS-28) is doing and how far he has outperformed the shallow and polluted half of his gene pool.

Lather.................. rinse.................... repeat on keeping the Hag pummelled into submission and the Skid fully informed of the facts.

Caroline2b1211's picture

Submitted by Caroline2b1211 on Fri, 05/14/2021 - 2:13pm

I just wonder how people can be so mean and toxic. Do they realise that their behaviour causes harms to all of us ? 
I just don't get it 

Wouahou, yours was particularly insane !!

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Submitted by stepper47 on Fri, 05/14/2021 - 11:44am

This reminds me of when my SD now 18 moved out 2 years ago, totally the choice of herself and her mother, who gave her the master bedroom and a newer car.  Preciously she was supposed to be here 50/50, but she did not feel "welcome" due to our few rules and decided she no longer lived here after DH actually got angry at her for coming home passed out drunk after a party at 15 years old.  A couple months later she called wantd to go to dinner, which DH was over the moon about because he had been icing him out.   Turns out she had decided on an amount he should pay "her" for not living here and using our utilities, food, etc like my son does.  Shockingly DH did not say no right away but he did come to his senses

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Submitted by Caroline2b1211 on Fri, 05/14/2021 - 2:21pm

OMG, what an original request ! Paid her for not living there ! I have never heard such a ridiculous reasoning.

So sad for your DH..

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Submitted by Felicity0224 on Fri, 05/14/2021 - 12:10pm

Oh wow. Wow. He's 9? I would definitely ask him how he knew how much those things cost and why he thinks someone would give him that information? Also a good time to discuss want vs. need. Does he believe that the baby needs a place to sleep? Does he believe that he needs a game console? 

This reminds me how last summer BM and SD17 lost their shit because I'd taken my daughter to the beach and they felt like DD (who is 7) had "too many" swimsuits compared to my teenage SDs. Completely absurd and just outright shocking that people actually think they have the right to equal everything.

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Submitted by notarelative on Fri, 05/14/2021 - 12:11pm

buy a new game console because we broke his. 

My, what skills you have to break his game comsole from 200km away! 
Ridiculous.

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Submitted by JRI on Fri, 05/14/2021 - 2:20pm

Im sure he is just repeating what he has been fed by BM and GM.  That's what 9yos do.  Your DH needs to discuss the next time he comes over.

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Submitted by LittleCloud9 on Fri, 05/14/2021 - 6:09pm

Maybe someone should explain to him that millions of little boys around the world don't have gaming stations at all and they are surviving just fine. Video games are not a vitamin. Even our 16 year old is only allowed one hour of game time a day on the weekends, if he's done all his chores and homework. 

Nip manipulation like this in the bud.