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I am officially the wicked stepmother

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Tue, 05/11/2021 - 2:34pm

So first of all, I'm in the process of cleaning out what was SDs old room and turning it into DS3s room and it feels SO GOOD. Clears out some of the negative vibes in that area of the house. 

Second, I'm realizing that over time I've really stopped caring very much at all if something affects SD because A. Not my kid, not my problem and B. Regardless of how hard we tried to be good to her we've been demonized and the evil stepmom label was slapped on me anyway. So screw it, might as well be one.

Third, one of the main things apparently that everyone is throwing a fit about is that we went on vacation without SD. Did anyone ask for any details or reason about the trip? Nope. Did SD even want to go? Not really. Did DH fund the trip? Nope, myself and my family did. Whatever. They were throwing fits no matter what so might as well give them a reason to.

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Exjuliemccoy's picture

Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Tue, 05/11/2021 - 8:57pm

Congratulations on reaching platinum staus! *hands glass of prosecco*

Wear those bi!ch boots with pride.

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Submitted by Wicked stepmo. on Wed, 05/12/2021 - 1:45am

My counselor told me flat out today that no matter what I do I will always be the source of blame so where to we go from here 

 

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Wed, 05/12/2021 - 5:31am

Welcome to the club! 

It is exhausting trying so hard for so long to make everyone happy and then still come out the villian. Like the others said, we can't control how others react to our lives so let it roll off your back and know in your heart that you are doing the best you can for your marriage and your kids. That is all any of us can do.

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Wed, 05/12/2021 - 7:18am

I'm not an evil stepmother, but I am an evil stepsister. Oh boo-hoo, I was sooooo mean to SSis (C'Tucky) when I called her out on being a thieving, lying harlot who did her kids a favor by losing her rights to them. Oh boo-hoo, I am still sooooo mean because I don't see all the progress she has made, even though two years ago she was living here in Anti-Canada with her meth-dealing BF while putting pictures online of drinking beer while driving around in her car she stole from church.

My SF's family, whom I used to be close with, very much disagree with my stance. It's the same stance my SBro and younger siblings have taken, too. I feel worse for my SBro because he has lost both his paternal family (except SF) and maternal family due to SSis. Paternal family thinks SBro should accept SSis for who she is and the progress she has made, and SBro has excellent reasons for not wanting to. That family would lie about SSis being around, and he wants no part of the dysfunction that comes with that. So, he gets cut off and made to feel guilty for it.

His maternal side...sweet Jesus. His mother disowned him on Christmas Eve one year because he wouldn't continue with the dysfunction and pandering to SSis.

Point is, embrace it. You're not wrong for wanting to cut out the cancer. I do feel sorry for SD in all this because she is just a kid, but you can't sacrifice your own kids and mental health for a situation you can't control (and your DH hasn't decided how he wants to handle yet). 

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Submitted by Harry on Wed, 05/12/2021 - 9:12am

What a good time you had on vacation with DS and DH.  That SD did not destroy it. 
You will always have that good Memories,