Where is the line between advocating for my own happiness and being a selfish bitch?
I am having a hard time navigating the line between advocating for my own happiness, life and family and being a selfish bitch. How do I know if my feelings and admitted resentment in having SD13 and SS12 around more often is a direct threat on my own happiness and self respect (SD blatantly ignores my existence, turns on the waterworks to manipulate DH and goes out of her way to show me I am not her family) or if its just me being a selfish bitch for not wanting them around to spend more time with us. I am feeling super guilty about my loving feelings or lack thereof towards the kids, particularly SD. And also resent BM for trying to palm kids off because she has 5 to deal with even though we can't afford them anymore as she gets a substantial cs and moved 2 hours a way meaning a weekends travel to get them here costs the same as a weeks rent. I guess what I'm saying here is how do I know if my feelings are valid or if I am just being the evil bitch step mother trying to avoid her sks?