You are here

Call me petty...Anyone know where I can get a five year wall calendar??

Janemakey13's picture

Submitted by Janemakey13 on Wed, 07/15/2020 - 10:24pm

Forums: 
General Discussion

SS13 is a miserable little bastard. He challenges me and talks back constantly. He will disagree with me just to disagree. He will agree with DH but change his answer when I ask the same thing just to disagree with me. 
 

Well SS over heard me talking on the phone. I was talking about how in five years when SS turns 18 DH and I are moving to Florida. When I got off the phone SS rudely told me he does not want me talking about Florida anymore because it's annoying. Of course SS would never say this when DH is around. This was the final blow.

 

So what I want to do is get a five year wall calendar and hang it right in the kitchen for that little bastard to see. I'll write something like COUNTDOWN TO FLORIDA and check of the months. Very unlikely SS will say anything but it will irritate him like crazy. Trust me I know SS. 
 

Does anyone know where I can get one???

 

notsurehowtodeal's picture

Submitted by notsurehowtodeal on Thu, 07/16/2020 - 12:11am

Search "5 year wall calendar 2021 2025" and you find lots of them.

What does your DH do when SS talks back to you? Are there ever consequences for his behavior? I'd have a hard time putting up with a smart mouth SS for the next 5 years. I can't believe he told you that you annoyed him.

Janemakey13's picture

Submitted by Janemakey13 on Thu, 07/16/2020 - 7:31am

SS will sometimes "slip" when DH is around and SS will Quickly look over at DH to see if he's going to say something. 
 

I know what subjects really enrage SS so when he's being Especially Mouthy/rude I'll start talking about those subjects to DH just to piss SS off. SS will "pretend" to not be listening or not care but I know he is/does. 
 

DH "thinks" SS is moving with us to Florida when he turns 18 as SS leads DH to believe this. I know he's just telling DH this. SS is a TOTAL level ten mama's boy who would NEVER leave mommy. Plus SS will not want to leave his friends and SS HATES change. So bottom line VERY unlikely SS will move with us. BUT SS is also a daddy clinger so this is why it bothers SS when DH or I talk about moving. SS knows he has no plans on moving just telling DH this and he does not want daddy dearest to move. 

Kes's picture

Submitted by Kes on Thu, 07/16/2020 - 6:26am

I think most of us have, or did have in the past, a mental equivalent of the 5 yr calendar counting down to when we would hope to be free of troublesome SKIDs.   Your SS13 takes the biscuit for cheek and rudeness. 

ESMOD's picture

Submitted by ESMOD on Thu, 07/16/2020 - 7:43am

I would probably couldn't help myself but talk about our future FL plans when SS13 was in the room.

I think an appropriate response to HIM might have been this.

"You know what I find annoying?  When people eavesdrop on a private conversation.  When people think that they have any input on what my husband and I have planned in our lives.  When children think that their opinion matters to me. If think hearing about my life is annoying, I suggest you stop listening.. because I'm not talking about it for your benefit"

hereiam's picture

Submitted by hereiam on Thu, 07/16/2020 - 10:07am

SS rudely told me he does not want me talking about Florida anymore because it's annoying.

Suddenly, everything in my home would be all about Florida. I'd even be checking Ebay for the entire series of CSI: Miami and let it play on the TV constantly.

If you have not made it clear to your DH that you don't want SS going with you, what will you do if he does decide to go to Florida with you when you move? I know you don't think he will, but anything can happen.

Janemakey13's picture

Submitted by Janemakey13 on Thu, 07/16/2020 - 11:36am

I've made it super clear to DH SS13 WILL NOT be living rent free with us with NO job at 18 AND will be helping with chores around the house. This right here Seals the deal that the little bastard will not be moving with us. Besides rudeness SS is wicked lazy and does NOTHING to help around the house. There is NO way in less than 5 years will this kid "smarten up" get a job and agree to do Chores. Nope no way Especially since mommy dearest would never make SS do any of these things if he lives with her

Dogmom1321's picture

Submitted by Dogmom1321 on Thu, 07/16/2020 - 12:07pm

Same here! DH and I would make SD get a job... however, BM would totally be okay with her being a leech and them playing "besties". She is more than welcome to live with BM!

Also, SD10 doesn't hide her favortism for her mom's house. DH told her yesterday that she would be picking her up early this week. "Yaaayyyy!" she yelled. DH (half jokingly) started saying "Woo hoo, party! I get to go to my mom's early!" And we played Party in the U.S.A. on Google Home, lol. SD is realizing it's a two way street. No problem voicing that to you SS, if he is doing the same. IMHO of course. 

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Thu, 07/16/2020 - 12:29pm

SS sounds like a creeper.

Try recording his rudeness and show your dH what his little darlin is actually like.

 

Rags's picture

Submitted by Rags on Thu, 07/16/2020 - 2:05pm

Pocket micro recorders on auto mode will solve this problem.  Keep ip clipped under your clothing any time this toxic turd is around.  Any word that kid utters near you will be captured.  At dinner time have "what did the rude spawn say today" hour.  Save those files to your computer and give DH a DVD or flash drive of that year'scrap in his Christmas stocking each year.

Willful ignorance  and self delusion regarding his toxic spawn cannot be tolerated. He either fixes it or the relationship ends.  Either way is a successful outcome for you.

Sandybeaches's picture

Submitted by Sandybeaches on Sun, 07/19/2020 - 7:01am

type in year calendar online and it will bring up this year and hen you can click right through and print out all of the years you want.  It is an 8 X11 page so you could put them all over the side of your refrigerator.  :)