OMG my stepson keeps eating all my waffles!!!! (Rant)

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Hi. I posted last week about feeling unmotivated to have kids of my own. Now it's time to tell you a little bit about my partner's son. His not technically my stepson but I call him that way because he's been living with us for 6 months without working or contributing with the household expenses. He's the typical man child that is a freeloader. He's almost 23.
One thing that I like to buy at the grocery store is waffles. I'm talking about the ones that you put on the toaster because they're tasty and quick and sometimes I don't have time to make breakfast. I don't eat them all the time but every now and then.
The other day I bought a box as I usually do and SS ate the entire box in 2 days. The box wasn't even opened yet. All my waffles were gone!!! I was a little upset, as you can imagine but I let it pass because I didn't want to be dramatic over something silly.
So the next time that my SO and I went grocery shopping, he payed for the food and I thought it was a good idea to buy 2 boxes of waffles this time. My SO payed for them but I grabbed 2 boxes just in case SS ate some because I need to eat too. I had already opened one box that still had waffles inside but the other box was still closed. This morning I saw the box that was closed completely empty in the trash. Guess what? SS had opened the new box and ate all the waffles in just one day!!!!
Not only does he not pay rent or food in our house but he's entitled, selfish and inconsiderate towards others. Does he think the world owes him something? Something similar happened when I first met him. We bought a large pizza for me, BF and SS. Each ate 2 slices. Afterwards there were 2 slices left. And SS ate them without asking if anyone else wanted more. In my mind I thought I was overreacting by thinking he was selfish. I told myself: "don't be so hard on him, maybe he's just a hungry guy". It seems like I was not overreacting at all. Lesson learned??? I will not buy waffles anymore for my stepson to enjoy all by himself. If he wants waffles, he can go to the grocery store and get some on his own. Sorry for the rant but I was raised completely different. They taught me to think of others and not only of myself.

what happens when you tell

what happens when you tell him not to eat your waffles?

Why is the 23 year old

Why is the 23 year old freeloader living with you?

Either your SO or man-child

Either your SO or man-child need to start paying for groceries. It is another mouth to feed and a big expense. If SO doesn't think it's an issue and just says "buy 2 next time" I'd rethink the relationship.

If man child refuses to contribute in some form, he needs to GTFO. Does he have a job? Does he at least do chores around the house. Sounds like a leech. Hope it's temporary and he will be gone soon.

P.S. - I have a similar issue when SD was 5. She ate 2 chocolate meal replacement bars and thought they were candy! 1. A child doesnt need meal replacements. 2. They're expensive. 3. I taught her to just ask if she can have something or not

What does your DH do when he

What does your DH do when he does this? Let me guess ... nothing.

My food! My thoughts on this

My food! My thoughts on this topic have always been that if food is in the house and not specifically segregated for a specific use it is available for consumption by residents of the home.

A 23yo is an adult who should be expected to launch and be self supporting. If his presence is invasive and you no longer want to feed him, then he launches.

Once he is gone, your waffles would still be free game for any remaining residence in the home.

IMHO of course.

Buy more. He lives there

Buy more. He lives there right?

BUT before you run to the store,,ask for your boyfriends debit card.

Send the freeloader to the

Send the freeloader to the store to buy more, with the allowance that I'm sure Daddeee gives him.

Nope, he doesn't have a job.

Nope, he doesn't have a job. And right now with the excuse of Covid19 I doubt that he will move out. My boyfriend buys the food. I don't have any complains about that but still my stepson feels entitled to grab as much as he wants, without putting a dime. I help pay rent, car and other utilities. One time I had to pay for food plus the entire rent when my SO got laid off because of the virus. And I was mad that I was the only one paying while he's adult son never cared to look for work. I complained to SO and told him there's 3 of us living in the household and he gave me a silly response. He said: "Don't include my son because he's living soon". That's BS because he has always been supported by Dad. So how will he launch when he doesn't have a job or enough money saved up??? He's supposed to be out hopefully by July but I don't want to get my hopes high yet...I didn't complain to SS about the waffles because I don't want him to think I'm an evil stepmom and I want peace while he's here. No drama