First off I’m so happy that there is some place that I can go and vent and have so many people that feel the Same way. I feel like my boyfriend of 3 almost 4 years just doesn’t get it when I say anything. He has two boys 6 and 7. When I first met them they were very little and playful and sweet didn’t give much issues was never in trouble. Till one day when we got the phone call that cps took his children from their mother due to the man she was seeing and the fact that their younger brother had been burnt by some type of object and was not getting medical treatment for the situation so the kids were taken and that’s when shit went down hill. They wouldn’t give him his children because he didn’t have lease in his name despite the fact that we were at the time living with my mother in a 4 bedroom home and one bedroom was empty and had everything they needed but that’s not the point. Fast forward 3 years and we finally get them out of the system no thanks to the mother and we now have the kids full time. I was excited I literally dream of being a mother but not like this. Now that we have his kids back we I have realized how much trauma was put into them due to the system failing to protect them they were abused and molested Nd it really put a number in on their attitudes towards everything and everyone. Now I feel bad because the kids that I thought I would truly grow to love because I fought so hard with my boyfriend to get them back from the state, and ended up being boys I can’t really stand half the time. I understand Trama as a kid because I been throw similar things but I did not act like them in any way. On top of that their mother doesn’t help at all she doesn’t do shit to discipline or correct her children. The main reason for me feeling this way is number one their attitudes like I swear they talk back always have some smart shit to say they don’t listen they fight over EVERYTHING AND don’t stop when you tell them too and nothing works taking toys away they don’t care take tv or games they don’t care the way they see it is we will get it back eventually. I’ve gone so far as to threaten to throw them away despite the money spent nope no budge. Also took starting slowly taking their Christmas gifts  away. Nope. Nothing they just might get nothing for Christmas honestly. They are disrespectful to women and they are also fighting at school with other people’s children all the time and I mean full on fist fights and injuring other people kids and lying about it all. Also be nasty little boys to little girls at school too.  They also throw little girl fits all the time when they don’t get their way and they LIE 24/7 and think they are believable lies. They pee the bed all the time and I know this is something to expect from a child but they sneak drinks at night when we tell them no and Fight with us to wear pull-ups they destroyed BRAND NEW mattresses that now smell like nothing but piss and I have to wash their clothes twice each time because they are throwing their pee clothes in the hamper of regular clothes and not telling us everytime they pee the bed.  We went as far as to put a lock on the fridge they still get into shit!! One of his sons thinks it’s funny to piss and shit on himself don’t even get me started on that one. They even whipped shit on a mirror one time in a local bathroom and we were told by supervisors that their mother did nothing to clean or assist with the situation and the little one that did it thought it was funny. They are so rudely mannered and they listen on front of their dad but as soon as he goes to work and I have them they ignore everything he told them to do. My nieces don’t do half the shit they do and on top of that his oldest is a perv he always tries to touch me in inappropriate ways when I’m laying down or not paying attention. He also tried looking down my shirt and just things that freak me out! He does little sneaky moves to try and touch my breasts or my ass and he’s  only fucking 7! It’s gotten to a point where I feel bad but I tell him to always give me space and keep his distance from me. I feel like I can’t show that motherly love or attention and I can’t like snuggle with him because of the actions he’s tried to take with me knowing they are inappropriate on top of that it disgusts me because I’m an adult his father has talked him about it because his father has even seen it first hand he still tries his bullshit tho. I feel bad because my boyfriend does do a good job and addressing and disciplining them when it comes to any wrong actions they take towards me or anyone or thing at that matter but they seem to not get the hint no matter how much they are in trouble as soon as their dad turns his back they ignore what he said and what was told even if they know they will get in huge trouble! !! What do I do!? Any suggestions???! Has anybody else ever felt with boys that do half these things!? Is it normal for boys to act in such way!? I’m so drained and tired and annoyed I don’t even want to deal with them they play and I stay in the other room and listen for trouble so I don’t have to deal which is bad because it’s depressing and it getting to a point where I wish we only had them part time so I could breathe.