Planed by BM I'm sure- Still bugged about it!
So last night me and my DH were out on the town having fun. When we went back to our room we had a voicemail on our home phone (the way I know is we get a text on our cell phones) so I call our house its from BM and its 12 min long! Oh shit what now is what me and my H thought! So I can hear BM and a couple of people talking so thought maybe she didn't mean to call- then I hear her say NO H name is remarried and stared talking about me and my DH. She then said yeah he put her before the girls and says its Biblical! She then says I would never put a man before my girls ever. (Wait didn't you cheat on your husband 3 times?(That's why he is now my DH) To me that's putting a man before your girls) sorry back to the voice mail- she then talks about meeting us almost half way when its our visitation she then says they still have to drive over an hour. She then goes off on how the girls want to see there dad but NOT her she is so ugly to them I hate the way she treats my girls its wrong. Like I said this goes on for a while.
The way I see it if I treat them so bad and what I do is wrong why does she not say anything in court? Why does she not say it to me! I believed it was a set up to see what we would do. I hate her so much. Please give me your thoughts! My mom said act like you never got it if it was a set up it will be brought up! I would just like to slap her!
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She won't say hateful things
She won't say hateful things about you in court because she is scared of you. She knows her 'feelings' cannot govern the court.
She doesn't like you and I am sure you are as very likable person. I would probably meet you and say "Hey, you are a really nice person." And when these women for no reason dispise us we are blindsided.
If you think she set you up say nothing. Nothing at all. She is baiting you for a reaction and not giving her any will be better than putting her in her place.
She may also be looking for sympathy from her friends because she deep down knows she screwed up her life... literally.
Ignore it. Don't respond. If
Ignore it. Don't respond. If she did it on purpose she was trying to get you riled up. Dont give her the satisfaction. If it was an accident, ignore it too. People say things when drunk that they wouldnt usually say, and they embellish the stories for their audience.
How old are STep daughters? The only thing I'd worry about is them and if that's the story they're being brainwashed to believe. If they're old enough to understand daddy did not leave mommy for kayjoy I think that's important.
Having gone thru similiar
Having gone thru similiar "set ups", BM would say something on the phone to DH about me or something on facebook, I have found that ignoring drives them fricking CRAZY!!!!!! Even if she would bring up the conversation, pretend you guys never got it, play dumb about it. If she brings it up, then it kinda proves she did it to get a rise out of you, which when you dont acknowledge you take control from her, which is what drives them nutso. If it never gets brought up, then it means it was an accident, and now you have a little bit of insight as to what is being said when she doesnt think you will find out. If you show her the least little bit of interest in the phone call, then she wins, and she got what she wanted, which is to upset you. Personally, I have found ignoring them is much more fun. Dont get me wrong, when I hear things being said about me, it pisses me off, but I know not giving into her, pisses her off even more.
It could have been a setup or
It could have been a setup or it could have been that the number was accidentally dialed - this is why I don't have a touch phone - I would not say anything to her - but would keep the message if you ever have to go to court to show what her thinking is and how she may be influencing her children with - she is trying to make herself look good. I have had that happened with friends that they did not know they had called and I could hear their entire conversation - once when it happened it was very enlightening and I learned who I could trust and not trust - do not give her the satisfaction of knowing it upset you.
I think the really sad part would be if she really believed her lies - our BM is the same way she has now re-written the history of her life to not include the 5 men she cheated with on DH and the fact that she wanted to be foot loose and single and gave us SS for 3 years ft -
Do nothing but keep the message - she sounds like an asshole and you just keep your head high and take the high road and you know the truth and the best thing is that you have her man and he loves you - sorry you had to hear that but you know what type of person you are and that is all that matters. I am sure that if our BM talks to her friends it is my DH's fault the marriage did not work out and that I stole him away even though I did not meet him until he moved out - in fact this past summer my SS was saying something and he turned to me and said "how would you feel if my dad met someone else and left you like he did my mom?" I was like back it up sonny I did not know your dad until your parents were separated and you dad never never cheated on your mother - he started back pedaling but to me it was another enlightening moment. My SS knows I did not meet his dad until he had moved out he thinks we met when they gave his dog to my sister (BM thinks the same thing that it was fate) we had met on Match.com 6 weeks before that but we let them think that! But here again BM is re-writing history to make herself look better!!
You will never understand her because you are not crazy so just don't go to crazytown - not worth the ride!!! }:) }:)
Yep, totally ignore it. It
Yep, totally ignore it. It will drive her batty. Pretend it never happened and give her absolutely no indication that you heard it. You'll get to see her squirm and that will be your revenge
I would ignore it. What did
I would ignore it. What did you husband have to say? Is her accusation correct? Do your sk really view you like this is or sm trying to stir crap?
As far as my H he wanted to
As far as my H he wanted to slap her! Yes the skids view me mad I make them clean up after them self, do things around the house, make them mind and point out if they are doing something wrong. The oldest one doesn't like me anymore the youngest one still does, but doesn't like having to be responsible for stuff here.
Ignore it, she is trying to
Ignore it, she is trying to piss you off
But save it if you can, as evidence, in case she contradicts her self , you have this as evidence.
Like This !! "Ignore it, she
Like This !!
"Ignore it, she is trying to piss you off
But save it if you can, as evidence, in case she contradicts her self , you have this as evidence. Eye-wink"