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The Good, the Bad and the Weird

Ninji's picture

The Good

DH found out that BM got the paperwork from the lawyer yesterday. She has agreed to sign it without fighting us. MIRCLES DO HAPPEN!!!....but then she asked if she could claim SS is still living with her because she is applying for welfare now that she is getting divorced. She also questioned him about Health Care for the kids. He told her he doesn’t even have a job right now so she's lucky she's getting what she is.

The Bad

He didn't get any good job offers yesterday. He did find out about a job at the hospital and SIL's father-in-law works there and is putting in a good word for DH. But, he is stressed to the max. So am I. I'm never gone through something like this. My ex was a horrible person and got fired a lot while we were together but I was in the military living in base housing and we didn't have any kids, so I didn't have to worry about a mortgage or CS.

The Weird

When I got home yesterday and DH was telling about what BM said, he called her Debbie (not her real name but the nickname part is what counts). Her name is Debra. No one has ever called her Debbie that I know of and DH only ever calls her Shitty. He refuses to use her real name unless we have to for the school or something. Now all of a sudden it's Debbie? I said "Debbie?" He got all defensive and said "Yeah, it's her name. Are you going to fight with me about that too" I told him no, but I never ever heard anyone refer to her by that nickname.

Now, I can't stop thinking about it because it was so weird after 7 years together BM is now Debbie....So guess what I'm referring to her as from now on, Debbie.

Comments

Ninji's picture

Yup, I told him that I will believe it when the signed papers are in the lawyers hands.

She is supposed to drop the kids off to us this Friday. The same day she said she wills sign and mail the papers. I bet money she will beg DH to pick them up so that she can "get everything done"

Acratopotes's picture

nope.... "could claim SS is still living with her because she is applying for welfare" it's called fraud bitch, not happening...

I love the name Debbie.... hehehehe immediately made me think of another BM on this site.. Debbie Dentures or something like that...

Ninji's picture

Yes, that's what he told her. She may still do it without us knowing but that's on her.

Apparently she did it while living with DH. She didn't tell the welfare people that he lived with her and had a job. When they tried going him to help support his kids, they found out he still lived there. They had to pay a bunch of money back.

Ninji's picture

Yes, I'm super weirded out by it. That's why I will have to say "Debbie" each and every time I mention BM from now until I get tired of it.

Is Debbie dropping off the kids"
Did you talk to Debbie about SD's report card
Did Debbie sign the papers
Debbie
Debbie
Debbie

DaizyDuke's picture

Debbie Does Dallas?

Debbie Downer?

Desperate Debbie?

Debbie Hairy?

Come on Ninji! You could have some fun with this!

On another note, I refuse to say BM2 name. BM1? For some reason I can vomit that one out.. but BM2? Nope. Her name is Angela, but she goes by Ange.... and yuck, I just can't say Ange.. it sounds so stupid and annoying.. Hey! Just like her! Wink
GAH.. it even bugged me to type that dumb as fuck name.

Acratopotes's picture

@DAizyD

Ange... makes me think of angle... triangle....

o means her coffin one day will have to be a triangle cause the minute her head goes down her legs spread...

DaizyDuke's picture

the first time I ever saw it, I read it as "ang" like rhymes with "dang"? lol I had never heard of anyone named Angela going by Ange...Angie? yes, but Ange is just dumb and downright annoying.

DaizyDuke's picture

Right? It's just so awful sounding! I can't imagine choosing to have people call you that when you could go by Angela, or Angie.

Acratopotes's picture

handing you the eye bleach...tuff left a couple off drops

CLove's picture

Great, my BM is also named Debra, except people call her "Deb". She calls him by his half name too". At least she cant call him "the huz" anymore.

Ninji's picture

My DH has never called me BM's name, but he once completely forgot my name.

Not long after we started seriously dating, we went to some event at the skids school. He ran into his old neighbors. They began telling him all kinds of bad stories about BM and her new boytoy. He then turned to introduce me and couldn't remember my name. I think he was just so shocked, embarrassed by what these people were saying, that his brain wasn't working.

But all these years later and I still pick on him about it.

CLove's picture

Early in our relationship he said "I love you Debra" and that is definitely NOT my name. I gave him heck for a little while, and started a new thing: when I say "I love you", I always include his full name, and he does as well. Humans are funny that way, we love hearing the sound of our own name! So now hes had some practice saying my name (my real name is very unusual, I doubt that anyone here has ever heard it, or seen it before, and I grew up in California...)