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Dh birthday went well

Lifer33's picture

Which is a surprise to me as much as anyone!

His bday is actually Wednesday. I was literally going to plan a gathering this coming weekend to include ss , dhs parents and brother Sil etc. They are just as slack as ss.

Ss waltzes in Thursday night and Says 'dad mums told me to tell you that we are away next weekend for (insert stepdads names) presentation...

Dh looks very uncomfortable,  I can feel myself going red with anger. Dh said have we got anything planned yet lifer? I'm not one to lie so I said with real sarcastic brightness ' no we haven't,  YET.  It's a shame ss will miss your birthday and your birthday weekend, but I'm sure the presentation will be fab.

Walked out the room.

Now this happens every special event. Bm definitely knows when dh birthday /weekend is, and always wrecks it putting ss and dh on the spot.

OK then, blow it. I got straight on net and booked a hotel and spa for this weekend just gone. In part because I'm working next Saturday night so id have had to drag myself through the weekend anyway. 

I decided I want ss , bm , parents having any part of it, period.all they'll do is mess it up. Bingo, I've got access to dhs email due to me managing some business so...

'Sorry for the short very short notice but we won't be able to see ss this Sunday 2nd as we are away '

She answered that 'oh it doesn't matter as he's coming to his stepdads presentation:)'

'No I mean this weekend , day after tm :)'

No answer. I deleted all the messages and did a little fist bump with the air.

We had a fabulous time just me dh and dd. Parts of the hotel were supposed to be closed , however we got friendly with the family wedding who had bankrolled the place, so we're invited to take part and use everything :) 

So do I feel guilty? Not one bit.

I'd like to think it has given bm and or ss food for thought about keep messing us around.. 

Last night I discussed taking kids to lapland next Xmas while dd still believes. It's our Xmas to have ss but dh said all deflated he won't want to come Sad

Ask him anyway. 

Ss replied within minutes that he would love to come.

Dh has had a great big smile on his face from Friday to today:)

Comments

floralsm's picture

Just curious.. did DH know you emailed BM on his behalf? Or he doesn't mind? Anyway, I'm glad to hear you had a great time. I love doing stuff like with just DD, DH and I. It's good having that time to yourselves. 

Lifer33's picture

For a good time hes asked me to comprise emails for him, in his company, never abusing the position before but simply cutting through her emotional blackmail with fact etc. As she tries to melt his head over the simplest query.so I think he's past the stage of caring !

TheAccidentalSM's picture

that Lapland isn't going to be a thing after all.  You know BM will mess up your plans if she thinks you are really going to go.  I'd just arrange the whole thing in secret, make sure to have SS passport and tell him on the way to the airport.

SeeYouNever's picture

Reminds me of times we used information to our advantage too. If I didn't really want SD to come to something I'd make sure BM knew about it way ahead of time because she would plan something and make sure we didn't have SD. If we did want SD there we'd keep it mum to the last minute. Funny how BMs are so predictable.

Lifer33's picture

I honestly think in our bms case though that she is so self centered and selfish she just doesn't think or care.

This is the woman who was a bridesmaidzilla for her best mates wedding, making the bride cry and change lots of things to suit bm !

I have honestly never encountered someone so conceited. Thankfully,  I'm just better organised long range, so she couldn't have found something better for her , her dp and ss to do for Xmas 23 yet 

Lifer33's picture

But keeping that to myself.

She didn't cause us too much drama taking him long haul this year, just told him first where he was going when dh wanted to tell both kids together, eyeroll. She's never withheld a passport or owt like that.  

I can but hope she was just  caught off guard and he was excited so she had no time to dream up a counter attack.  You know if we invite him to end of the street she'll say she was going to take him to the moon that day ... another big eye roll