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Should BM share FAFSA info with DH?

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Sun, 02/23/2020 - 1:47pm

I'm curious by others who have gone through this on your thoughts.

We were working with OSS this weekend to pay his enrollment fees for college this fall. For various reasons, BM has not completed the FAFSA form for OSS, so in our process of getting everything else situated, we looked into FAFSA to see if DH could do anything.

Looks like he can't, but apparently there are some questions that DH is supposed to answer on FAFSA? BM says there aren't, FAFSA says there are, and DH doesn't have access to any of it.

DH had a chat with OSS about money...

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Sun, 02/09/2020 - 9:13am

Well, I might have actually scared the bejesus out of DH because he actually is holding OSS (somewhat) accountable for his tux jacket.

Last night, DH sat OSS down and had a very frank conversation with him about finances. Now, not everyone will agree with how he handled this (I'm not 100% in agreement, either), but DH decided to lay down some facts:

You Reap What You Sow

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Sat, 02/08/2020 - 1:23am

Same sh*t, different weekend.

BM is crying poor again. Well sweetie, this is what happens when you marry a man you've only known for a month and move into an apartment that's more than even I would pay for a place to live on dual income.

Oh, did I mention she's still not working? Yeah, there are literally two dozen warehouses within 20 minutes of where she lives that hire day-of at $14-16/hr. 

OT - Vacation Rentals in Gatlinburg

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Wed, 02/05/2020 - 7:57am

DH and I are taking the SSs to/around Gatlinburg this summer as a final family outing before OSS goes off to college (and as part of his graduation present).

For those of you who vacation/travel to Gatlinburg/Pigeon Forge, do you have any recommendations on cabin rental companies or hotels or condos? Maybe things that are cool to do/see? 

STOP Moving In Your SO!!!

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Sun, 01/19/2020 - 6:35am

Time for another Lt. Dad Fireside Chat. It has been a while, but I think we need to all gather on my bearskin rug in front of the fireplace so I can poke a few of you in the ribs with the fireplace poker.

Ladies and gentlemen of STalk - for the love of all that is good and holy - DO NOT MOVE IN WITH YOUR BF/GF SO FRAGGIN' FAST!

Merry Christmas - Have a Pee-Soaked Jacket! UPDATED with Bonus Vent!

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Wed, 12/25/2019 - 2:38pm

Small vent: Remember how DH bought OSS a tux jacket for band?

Yeah, apparently BM's cat p*ssed on it. How do I know this? Because it's in a plastic bag in my house with BM saying it needs to be dry cleaned.

Lord give me strength. Cannot and will not deal with this on Christmas. DH is already salty about it (and salty about our broken dishwasher), so clearly it hasn't been addressed with BM. I'll give it 24 hours before I lose my sh*t about it.

What "Kids Come First" REALLY Means, and Why SPs Hate It

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Fri, 12/20/2019 - 5:38am

I wrote this in the forums, but liked what I wrote and thought it might be good for others to read. We debate frequently about whether kids or a new partner should come "first" and why it's different in a step/blended family than it is in an intact family. So here are my likely incoherent ramblings on the topic:

BM is Unemployed AGAIN

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Tue, 12/17/2019 - 9:07am

I'm not entirely sure how many blogs I have posted with this or a similar title, but here we go again.

Before I jump into that, I want to thank everyone for your worda on my last blog. I actually had a chance to talk with DH about it more, and he encouraged me to have a conversation with OSS. Which I did. And it went really well!

My heart is going to get stomped on in this no matter what, just because of who I am. I can't fully disengage. The boys and DH don't deserve that, and I don't want that. I am going to have to figure out how to deal better with it, though.

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